Dealing with Posartum Depression

I have started to look into this topic now, before my child arrives, not because I’m expecting or anticipating that I’ll  become depressed by any means, but because I want to be prepared. I want to know what signs to look for and what I can do about it if it were to happen to me. And really, for the reason why I’m here and why I write on this blog- to share with you, my readers, helpful information and resources that I find so that you too can benefit from them. 

I’ll be honest. This issue does scare me a little. It’s a very sad thing. 
20% of women who get “baby blues” (very common) suffer from PPD.  From my understanding, postpartum depression is a more severe form of the baby blues. 
  • Take care of yourself
  • Don’t expect to much from yourself
  • Seek support from family and friends
  • Be active- get out of the house
  • Don’t feel guilty 
Symptoms of having postpartum depression: 
  • Lack of joy in life
  • Insomnia 
  • Lack of appetite
  • Severe mood swings 
  • Difficulty bonding with baby 
  • Overwhelming fatigue
  • Anxiety 
  • Excessive Guilt 
How to cope with postpartum depression:
  • Take good care of yourself- rest when you need it, eat healthy, drink water
  • Ask for help 
  •  Sleep when baby sleeps
  • Go outside- fresh air is so good! 
  • Exercise 
  • Slow down 
I want to share with you this blog, from a women who is currently dealing with postpartum depression. 
If you have or are currently suffering from postpartum depression, I welcome your thoughts, stories, or advice. You never know who is reading and who might benefit from what you have to say. 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

6 thoughts on “Dealing with Posartum Depression

  1. We just had a therapist come in and talk to our baby class about ppd last week. She has come in a few times and she said that although moms don’t always want to talk about it during class, she usually gets a couple of calls afterwards. Interesting.. and very important info to share with the husband.

  2. The pediatrician’s office does give you a PPD survey to fill out. There are incredibly standard questions on it. “Have you smiled in the last month?” or “Have you found yourself thinking dark or depressing thoughts?” What you NEED to know about the time right after you have your baby is the fact that your husband isn’t going to be able to read your mind and if you don’t ask him to help, he won’t.The screaming baby who screams for any given reason, the stench of your hormonal body odor because you haven’t showered in three days, the hole where your baby was is now just a flap of skin and mush, the dirty dishes in the sink and your jerk husband who doesn’t realize anything is happening beyond the screen of the T.V. Those are all things that contribute to PPD. I myself was not diagnosed with PPD, but I definitely had the baby blues! The first few days at home were so scary, because my little girl was early and had jaundice. As quickly as she was born, I was afraid she would be taken away. A thought too terrible to speak out loud, at least I thought so until my mom and best friend pulled it out. I cried and cried until I said it, and then my best friend who helped me through my entire labor said “Oh that? I did that too, it takes another couple of days but it goes away!” She was right, and definitely put my mind to rest! It’s important to have someone to talk to, whether it be a girlfriend, your mom or a trusted someone special. They can ease all pain, from your deepest fears to your silliest worries!Wow, this is all over the place…thanks for hanging on this long!

  3. Samantha – we don’t know each other but we know a lot of the same people. I read your blog once in awhile and suffered from PPD. One thing I wanted to add for your readers to know is that PPD doesn’t always happen right after you deliver. Mine didn’t start until my baby was about three months old. Here’s a bit of my story: I suffered from a horrible case of mastitis caused by the MRSA bacteria, had to stop nursing, and finally after ten weeks, three aspirations with a needle, and four courses of antibiotics, recovered. Add all this on top of a move to a new city where I knew no one,my husband leaving for six months of military training, and my grandfather dying in a car accident – all within one month’s time. When I saw my new Doctor for an unrelated reason, I became very emotional in his office and he determined I had PPD. I had no idea that this was something that could occur three months after she was born. He told me that due to so many changes in my life and highly stressful events occuring so close together it had given me a bad case of PPD. I didn’t recognize that is what was wrong until he said it. Right then and there he put me on Lexapro – 10 mg, which I started by taking a half a pill for two weeks and then a full pill every morning since. After a few days, I noticed a difference. After a few weeks, I felt like myself again. Pairing it with exercise and joining a moms group really helped me to get out of the house more to socialize and the exercise helped get the endorphins going too. Now I am back down to half a dose and should be completely weaned off the medication within a month. I feel lucky because many women have to stay on medication for much longer in order to balance the chemicals in their brain. For whatever reason, I seem to be doing ok after only a few months.This is a real disease. One that I never really paid attention to nor thought would ever happen to me. I never wanted to die or felt like hurting my baby or anything like that. I just felt utterly and completely alone and overwhelmed. The expectations I had for myself and my baby (due to all the reading and research I did prior to delivery) were impossibly high. I was so disappointed in myself and felt so guilty all the time. I didn’t know why my baby wasn’t sleeping or eating or whatever like everything I read and learned about. It stressed me out to no end. I felt very selfish and did not understand my emotions at all. I now know that I needed help. So if any of you feel these things, please do not be afraid to seek help if you feel like you are in despair. Reach out to someone. Anyone. Today I am happy and comfortable in my role as a mother. (Finally.) It took about six and a half months after having my daughter to appreciate her and actually feel like I loved her to my very core. I think the medication and other things I did to work through it helped me to be more patient and more flexible. It helped me to realize that we are both learning together. Now that I am over the hard part, I know that I can do anything. And I am so proud of this journey that I have made – even though it was very, very difficult.Thanks for letting me share.

  4. I too am another PPD survivor:) Lexapro was also the medication prescribed to me. I did not anticipate having to deal it. I was jealous of the little boys that played soccer outside…I seriously wished I was 6yrs old again and not have a care in the world. I called my husband at work several times a day in tears and begged him to come home. I felt like the only thing I was ever going to do was sit in my chair and nurse my newborn. The phone would ring and I would cry without knowing who was even calling. Having a child was MORE life changing that I had ever imagined. I pictured having him and going home and being so happy and things being perfect. Just know that if you do start to have some of the feeling described in your blog that you are NOT alone and don’t be ashamed of it. OK, done!

  5. I was so scared of it, but both times I’ve been fine. I’m grateful for that. Even though I have real high expectations of myself most times, I am good at lowering expectations. That’s definitely needed after having a baby.Not that lower expectations prevents PPD, I’m just saying–that’s how I got through the early days.Anyway, can’t wait to read your posts about the new baby. That baby’s gotta be out of there, right?

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