Children Today vs. Years Ago

The other day I was showing these cards to my newborn. My husband made a comment about how infants can see only black and white and that they like the high contrast, thus the reason why our son was so intrigued by them. His father – joking- said, ” Wow. We didn’t have those when you were growing up and you turned out pretty good.”
True. This got me thinking.  They didn’t know that such-n-such years ago and we all turned out fine! 
Do you ever think that? Or wonder things like that? How is there all this research on what children should and should not do/eat/read/watch/see/hear/… coming out every day that is supposedly making them smarter/safer/healthier/happier/better/…. 
… but 10, 20, 30 years ago that research wasn’t there, and I think I turned out pretty happy and healthy. So did my mother and father, my grandparents, and my great- grandparents. 
Wasn’t there a time when women who were pregnant would drink alcohol probably way to often? And here they are telling us to stay away from cheese! 
Do you get what I’m saying? 
I had formula as a baby, not breast milk and  I didn’t grow up eating a lot of healthy foods, but here I am, healthy, happy, and thriving on life. 
Can you tell the difference between a formula fed child and a breast-fed child? The difference between the child who came from a mother who ate fruits and vegetables her entire pregnancy or from the one who drank soda pop and a glass of wine every Friday? The difference between the child who watches an “educational” show a day verses the child who watches re-runs of Dora The Explorer all day long? 
Maybe I’m playing devil’s advocate here, but do you get me? 
I do think the current research is important. Obviously I do otherwise I wouldn’t be writing about it. I do think it means something and it’s important, and I  believe that the research studies are true. Of course I do. It’s what I studied and will try and apply to my family’s life. 
So then, what is it, that makes today different than 30 years ago? Even 10 years ago? Is it the potential that we might have, that maybe we were missing out on before? Is it that our children will be healthier, that our generation will have less diseases and live longer because of the new research studies be done and applied to life? 
I don’t know.. 
Do you get me? 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

5 thoughts on “Children Today vs. Years Ago

  1. What makes it hard is that the research changes. Then, how to deal with all the information since the research is presented as, “If you do this/don’t do this, your child will die or get really sick.” I’ve really been struggling with this. It feels like I talk to certain people and all their information is rooted in fear and I don’t want that. I don’t want to live in a way so I minimize risk. I want to live with arms open to the good things in life. I wish more information was presented in such a manner.I try to choose the healthier/safer route and hope for the best.

  2. Yeah, I agree with Rachel. On the other hand, the notion that they didn’t have all this research, etc, years ago and everybody’s OK sort of helps me relax about my own parenting. I mean, how bad can I really screw him up?!

  3. I think anything that is nurturing and natural is the ideal but of course life isn’t ideal and sometimes we have to modify and relax a bit in our standards. I’ve simply stuck to the basic, common-sense stuff..breast feeding, loving, holding,having a peaceful home as my non-negotiables and the rest I flex and bend as needed to strike a balance. And I don’t obsess about any of it, simplicity is easier.Breeze

  4. I get you. But it is also easy to become wrapped up in all the research out there instead of just doing what makes you and your baby happy. Maybe what the experts say is best doesn’t work for you? Maybe your baby won’t take a pacifier even though it is recommended to prevent SIDS. Maybe your baby refuses to latch on and won’t nurse as planned. Maybe your baby develops colic. All hypothetical but very real and common issues. You can research things to death but what it comes down to it is all mothers figure it out on their own anyway.

  5. I TOTALLY get you. That’s why I kind of take everything with a grain of salt. Do the best I can, lead a healthy lifestyle. But I don’t kill myself over stuff. Like for example, I bought some Krispy Kremes from a girl who was selling them as a fundraiser. And I just ate two of them. For dinner. 🙂

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