Ask the Mom’s: How do you Do It All?

* Body After Baby Challenge starts today! If you’re participating, (or would still like to join!!) stay tuned for Monday’s post* 
Being a mom is hard, is it not? It takes a lot of work. Some of you are mom’s to one, some are mom’s to many.  Some of you are stay-at-home-mom’s while some of you work at another job outside the home. But whatever you are, we’re all mom’s who have many things we’ve got to get done in a day. Clean house. Take care of baby. Pay bills. Cook dinner. Buy groceries. Fold laundry. Get the kids under control. 
I’m grateful in that I have an amazing husband who really is my other team member in our marriage. We are a team. That’s the way I think it should be. I’m not working outside the home right now, so he takes on that role, but we share a lot of the “duties” at home.  Yes, since I’m home I do most of it, but he is still there, helping me out.  Some days I cook, some days he does. (He is a much better cook than I am. And he even LIKES to cook!! Did I get lucky or what?!) He does his fair share in laundry duties, housework, and the like. Seriously, I AM BLESSED. But still, being a mom and wife you still feel a sense of duties that are laid upon you. Sometimes it can get a bit overwhelming, no? I want the house to be clean for him when he gets home from work so he can have a place to relax and let his mind be free, but the baby is crying! He won’t stop eating! He only napped 30 minutes! And on and on and on. 
I don’t understand how it’s possible that I can be home all. day. long. and still have a messy house. When my son is awake I want to play with him, read to him, and be with him, but then when he is asleep (ha, right! We really need to work on this- he hasn’t been sleeping hardly at all during the day!) I want to take a nap myself or spend that time relaxing and writing. 
I suppose it’s all in the way that you look at your priorities. 
I’ve learned that you can actually get a lot done in just 30 minutes. Sometimes I’ll get a burst of energy and let me tell you, I can do GOOD things in 30 minutes. I’m like a mad women cleaning my house on roller blade wheels. Set your time for 30 minutes, even 15 minutes and see how fast you can go! 
I’ve found a few things that have really helped me manage “it all.”
  • Have a cleaning schedule. For example, Monday’s is deep cleaning day, Tuesday and Saturday are laundry day’s, etc. If you have a plan, it’s easier to get it done and feel in control about it instead of overwhelmed. 
  • Really, any sort of schedule helps. Especially if you’re like me and you’re a planner by nature, it helps to have a flexible plan
  • Have a plan for grocery shopping and meals. This saves money and time and ensures your family will eat well balanced meals most nights of the week. 
  • Make time for yourself. Take care of yourself.  You are the mother to your children.  The wife to your husband. You’ve got to be your best if you want to provide the best. 
  • And finally, don’t try to manage it all. You just can’t do every single thing. (If you can than you’re super women (or bat women?) and I want to know your secrets. Do you wear a black leather suit too?) 
How do you “do it all”?  Do you have a schedule, a plan, a system? 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

7 thoughts on “Ask the Mom’s: How do you Do It All?

  1. Go to There’s a cleaning schedule there, and once you get your house clean to start (yeah, right), all you do is follow the daily schedule. Your house stays clean (or is supposed to anyway) and it’s only supposed to take 15-30 minutes a day to keep it that way. You focus on only one room a day. I just remembered the site while I was reading your post. I need to try it and see how it works for me.

  2. What is this cleaning of which you speak? lol

    I’m on my own with my three most of the time, hubby works away. I pay my 14 year old in computer time to tidy up. lol. I wash the bathroom sink down everytime I use it and I’m washing my hands

    The best thing I learned was to let it what you can and then get over it. I find it hard to live in clutter so I got rid of a lot of stuff!

    Good article


  3. Well, my first step is getting to the “after” baby stage! Almost there, though!

    Cleaning? I’m sorry, I’m not familiar with the term…

    Modern Mamaz is giving away a free sling… maybe if you could “attach” your baby to your hip, the house cleaning would go smoother! 🙂

  4. Great, great post! I’ve discovered that there is no way to do it all and be totally rested at the same time. It’s either:

    clean the house/cook dinner/take care of the kids/spend time with the hubby

    OR take off one of those items and add a nap somewhere.

    So I don’t worry about it. As long as I know I’ve done MY best (which isn’t the same as anyone else), I’m good!

    And yes, you are lucky to have such a great hubby. A lot of moms don’t. We should definitely thank our lucky stars…. 🙂

  5. seriously THE post for me today…

    I will comment more on this later, however I’ve been doing laundry all morning and I’m simply worn to a frazzle and my little baby man does NOT want to sleep. ugh. WAY tired here.

    chat later

  6. No advice really, I’m so behind on my housework but I do have lots more time now sunnyboy is a bit older. I do remember when he was younger and dashing round doing as much as I could during his half hour naps. So things do get easier and I don’t really have an excuse for the mess in our house now 🙂

    I left you an award on my blog – no need to pass it on unless you want to but I wanted you to know that I really like your blog!

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