Mama interview: Kristen with Four

1. How many kids do you have and how old are they?

My husband and I have four children—all blessing from the Lord. We call them our little stair steps as they are 6 ½ , 5, 3, and 9 months.

2. What is the best part about being a mom?

I love that the Lord has called me to care for and nurture these souls. Most days are trying and all days are busy, but HE never gives a responsibility without also giving the strength and wisdom to handle it.

I also love the fact that my kids feel secure with me. To have chubby arms reach out for me and faces light up when I enter a room—it is priceless!

3. What’s the hardest part?

The biggest challenge is spreading my time and attention among everyone while teaching them to live selflessly. I want to give my all, but the children need to know that I am only one person and that I cannot and should not do everything they want, every time they want it. It is a constant inner battle—do I sacrifice what I am doing to read a story, therefore laying down my wants for theirs, or do I ask them to wait on that story, therefore teaching them to lay down their own wants?

4. What has happened to you as a mother that you never expected?

I never knew it was possible to use the bathroom with a baby propped on your lap. Or that you could fold laundry or chop vegetables with one arm.

On a more serious note, I didn’t realize until my first was born how fully life changes with parenthood. It is no longer in your power when you go to bed and how long you sleep and when you eek out time to prepare a meal. Your life is suddenly affected and altered by a tiny being. As you teach and guide and train, you take back pieces of control, but your life is never the same!

5. If you could give a new mom one piece of advice, what would it be?

Remember that this is a season. Life may be different in a day, in a week, in a year, but this is your lot for right now. You will be glad to see some seasons drift away, like the season of nursing every hour, on the hour. Other seasons you will cling to, like the season of rocking snuggly baby to sleep. But all seasons, regardless of your affection or disaffection, will cease and usher in new ones.

6. What our values and beliefs in raising your children?

I consider myself a natural-minded parent. I love natural childbirth, I breastfeed exclusively and extensively (for 2-3 years), I delay solids (until 8-10 months), I co-sleep… BUT God instructs us to rely on HIM and not on our own understanding so every decision is taken to Him in prayer.

We have strong beliefs about keeping our children with us in almost all situations. As a result, we rarely use a babysitter, and as we believe in family worship, that includes the church nursery.

Though we do everything as a family, our children have endless chances to be with other children and other adults in many social situations. What a blessing for the children to be able to interact with people of all ages!

7. What is your favorite part of the day with your kids?
I love dinner time when my husband is home and we all gather together to share a meal and reflect on our day. No matter what is going on or what still needs to be done, this is a time to stop and simply share as a family.

8. Do you have a favorite age?

Each age has its own challenges and blessings. As my children move through life, I discover new joys with each season. (Who knew I would feel like throwing a party when my child learned to dress himself?) However, I especially enjoy the age (around 1) when my children begin to speak. It is fun for all of us to decipher the new vocabulary that pours forth from little mouths!

9. What do you and your kids do for fun?

We love to gather on the couch for reading time. We are voracious readers and we devour board books and picture books and chapter books with equal vigor. Nothing beats being smashed together with a good book! It is also a great time to grab those illusive kisses from children who are otherwise too busy to stop for cuddles.

10. How do you feel about kids and television? Do your kids watch TV?

This is a tough one, but as with most things in this ever-changing life with little ones, we are directed by the seasons. I do let my children watch television, though I attempt to greatly limit the minutes spent caught in its trance! However, during periods of illness or the end stages of a pregnancy or when we are adjusting to home life with a new baby, I do adjust our viewing hours to allow for more “veg” time.

11. What’s your #1 mom tip?

Begin training early. So many women speak of “The Terrible Twos” or “The Even More Terrible Threes,” but those years can be joyful if the groundwork has been laid! As soon a baby can begin to demand its own way, we can begin guiding him in the way of obedience. Just as our Heavenly Father leads us, we must train these little souls consistently with patience and gentleness.

12. Where do you blog and what do you write about?

My blog is called Bits and Pieces From My Life. I don’t feel compelled to share every detail of my life (hence the name) so you rarely hear about what I am doing and where I am going from day to day, but I choose to share special tidbits and pictures. I am planning several great “Mom” giveaways this summer. You can find me at http://from-my-life.blogspot.com.

13. Anything else you’d like to tell us about?

Remember that if we are called as mothers, we have been given a noble task in God’s kingdom. “Rather as servants of God, we commend ourselves in every way: in great endurance, in troubles, hardships, and distresses…in hard work, sleepless nights, and hunger; in purity, understanding, patience, and kindness.” (2 Corinthians 6:4-6)

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

7 thoughts on “Mama interview: Kristen with Four

  1. I enjoyed reading this interview. What a great idea!

    And if Kristin is open to answering questions, I would love to hear more about delaying solids. I breastfeed exclusively and for an extended period as well but I found with each of my first two that my milk seemed to decrease around 6-8 months of age. I was able both times to increase production with fenugreek supplements, but I am wondering if the introduction of solids has anything to do with this.

  2. What a great interview, Kristin. I agree with so much of what you said & really enjoyed reading things from someone else' perspective.

    Also-I had to laugh when I read the part about using the bathroom with a baby on your lap. Just last week we were having a rough morning & I was there, with my 10mo strapped to my chest & my 2yo trying to “help” me wipe.

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