Goals: Tips for Making & Keeping Them

I’m a goal setter. I like lists. I like goals. I like to-do’s.

I also have an obsession with day planners and cute calenders. If I could buy a new day planner every month, I would. There’s something about fresh crisp paper to write down all my list and to-do’s and activities. My husband thinks it’s odd. Didn’t you just buy one of those last year? I thought it lasted until January 2010 he would say. Well, yes, it does. But you see, I need a fresh one. I need one so I can function. You don’t want me to forget about work or getting the oil changed in the car do you? And I need a place to write down the groceries! Do you want me to cook you dinner or not?!

Men just don’t understand some things.

And day planners have more to do with goals than you might think.


I think goals are important. It gives you the opportunity to strive for something bigger or better and to help keep you focused. I have a lot of things I want to get done during my time on earth and without goals, I’m pretty sure I’d be spinning in circles.

I’m a writer by fault. I always have been and I’ve always kept a journal of some sort. My memory isn’t what I’d call fantastic so it’s also a great way for me to remember things. Often I will read through parts of it when I’m bored. Bored with a 7 month old isn’t really a true statement- so bored as in past tense. When I used to be bored.
In a page smudged with chocolate of some sort, I found my goals or to-do’s that I wanted to accomplish before I was 30 years old. I wrote this when I was 20 years old- about 4 years ago.
I realized upon reading this list that I have a lot of work to do.
  • Have a baby/start a family. DONE!
  • Write a book. Started numerous times, not finished. I really need to focus on this one. It’s a huge life time goal for me.
  • Run a marathon. Nope. My laziness gets the best of me. I really want to work on this one.
  • Swim with dolphins. Yes, I set important goals. DONE!
  • Become a personal trainer. In progress. Just need to take a test.
  • Own my own business. Maybe when I’m 60 I’ll think about that again.
  • Be a high school health teacher. I would have to go back to school for this one to get my masters in education. I haven’t decided if/when I will do this or not.
So, I have six years to write a book, become a personal trainer, open my own business, run a marathon and get a masters degree.
Easy. Right?
I don’t know why I had the age of 30 as some sort of magical “deadline” age. Of course I have my whole life to reach all my goals, but some things I want to accomplish sooner than others and telling myself that my goal is suchnsuch by age 25 or 30 gives me a deadline and and ending date.

Since the birth of my son, my goals have evolved and changed a little. I still want to accomplish all those things, but I have new things I want to do too. Things that involve raising my son and preparing a life full of joy and peace. I’ve spent time reevaluating my goals lately. I want to be productive. When I set goals for myself, I make a plan and I automatically become more productive. I’m busier than ever, but I have so much I want to do.

I want to write.
I want to blog.
I want to read.
I want to work out.
I want a clean party perfect house every day.
I want to do this.
I want to do that.
And that and that and that.

I need more time. We always need more time.

Tips for Making Goals.

1. Prioritize. What is the most important to you?

2. Ask yourself why? If your goal is to lose weight- why? If your goal is to go to bed by 10pm every night- why? If you don’t know your reasoning and why you want to accomplish a goal- you’re running in crocked circles.

3. Be realistic. I would never say, I want to run a marathon next month, because not only is that crazy but it’s clearly not realistic.

4. Don’t sell yourself short. You need to be realistic but you also need to aim high. Reach further than you know you can do, but don’t make it impossible.

5. Make a specific plan. Telling yourself you want to read for 30 minutes a day is great- but where are you going to read? When are you going to read? Morning? Night? While you’re walking on the treadmill. Make a specific plan so you know exactly how you’re going to reach your goal.

6. Tell friends and family. To accomplish a goal, you need support. Tell people about your goals and ask them to help keep you accountable.

7. You think you can, you can. Our minds are powerful. If you believe you can, think you can, know you can, than you will.

8. Write it down. Make list like I do if you want. Or, if you’d like to start a new obsession with day planners and fancy note pads, that’s fine too. You can tell your husband that it’s my fault.

9. Make fun and serious goals. I know you want to lose weight, get healthier, get a job promotion, clean your house more often, and give more to charity, but what do you want to do that’s fun? Do you want to go skydiving? Walk with elephants? Go scuba diving? Fine. Make it a goal.

10. Just do. Stop taking about it. Stop making list. Stop writing it down. Stop thinking about it. Quit wasting time. Just get out there and get it done. In the words of Nike- Just do it.

What goals have you made for yourself? Get out there and get ‘er done!

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

3 thoughts on “Goals: Tips for Making & Keeping Them

  1. I have/had some similar goals as yours. I thought I'd have kids a lot sooner (I'm 33 with a 16 month old.) But I became a personal trainer and opened my own business before I got married and had a baby so now I'm on to new goals. Sometimes I wonder what my life would've been like had I started earlier with a family. But God saw it best for me to wait and I'm glad I did.
    Your goals inspire me. I too will write a book someday! Maybe when I'm 60…(sigh)
    God knows the desires of our hearts and it's interesting to see how things fall into place at different times for different people.
    Keep writing, keep running, keep making lists (I share your obsession!) and keep up your positive attitude!
    Thanks for this post. I needed it! 😉

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