We’re All Mothers

I want to talk about something. If you’ll hang on with me for just a minute.

Please. I promise I won’t be too preachy.

It’s very important to me that you, that we, that all of us as mothers to our children, remember and realize that we know what’s best for our children.

Having a different opinion this someone is okay. In fact, you can even disagree with someone. We can all have different parenting styles and beliefs but we can still be friends.
Isn’t that nice? What would this world be if we all raised our children exactly the same? If we walked outside each morning to greet our super friendly neighbor in matched stripped polos and all walked to the supermarket to buy the exact same jar of baby food and the exact same box of diapers and the exact same toy. If none of us had our own styles, opinions, thoughts or beliefs; if we just pranced around like we all did exactly the same thing.

That would be boring.

No mother should ever feel bad or guilty because they choose to parent differently than another. I believe there are different ways to parent, and for my family, I believe there is a right way to do it. But, my right way might be different than your right way. And if it is, that’s okay! I still like you! I still think you’re a great mom, no matter if you paint your house blue or green.

I don’t think there is a “wrong” way to parent (excluding violence, drugs, etc obviously) there are just different ways. Different is good! Variety in our world is a good thing! We are all unique individuals!
Here on Mama Notes, I will of course talk about things that I believe in. Like duh, but please know that you are welcome here no matter what. I think you guys know that. So many of you leave comments and they are all supporting and helpful to me and every other mom that reads them. I just love that. So I wanted to say thank you. You guys are just nifty.
You should never feel bad for feeling one way or parenting different than your neighbor. Do what you think is best! Surround yourself with encouraging people. After all, you’re the parent!

Carry on now.

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

13 thoughts on “We’re All Mothers

  1. I have many friends with many different parenting styles. However, I do find myself drawn to moms who practice Attachment Parenting like myself. Its comforting sometimes to know that “your right way” is the same as someone else's 🙂

  2. Great post, and thank you! As a new mom, I'm still trying to figure so much of this out (I think we all are) and I'm constantly second guessing myself as I look at the moms around me. Thanks for the reminder that I, and I alone, am the mom in this household, and I know my family better than anyone else.

  3. I absolutely agree. Sometimes I worry when I find myself surrounding myself with like-minded people or searching out people just like me. I enjoy getting to know a variety of moms and gleaning ideas from them. I like to follow my instincts and just do what works for my family. I don't feel like it has to fit into some neat category.

  4. You are so right! I just posted about the economic and environmental impact of breastfeeding versus formula feeding. It was not meant as a slam against those who formula feed, it was meant to show how positive breastfeeding was/is for my family, my wallet, and the environment. But, I should have know it could cause some controvery. It is such a sensitive topic.

    I guess I just don't understand why we can't express our opinions about something without someone with a different opinion getting upset about it.

    Life is too short to argue about who parents better. Anyway, I know my way is the best way. 😉 (I'm am joking!!!!!) But it is the best way for MY family.

    Thanks Samantha for yet another thoughtful post. You are one smart cookie!

  5. It might be helpful to not use words like “right” or “wrong”. If you mean that one thing or another is best for your particular family or situation, then say that. But when you say it's the “right” way, then you ARE saying your way is better than someone else's. It's contradictory to say you believe your way is right, but it's not going to be right for everyone. If it's not right for everyone, it's not right; it's what's best for you.

    I understand the point you are making with this post, and it's a really great point! I'm just saying that words DO have meaning, and you have to be careful which words you use when you're writing on a public forum.

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