Confession

Apparently I need to clarify this post. I wrote this post partly in humor and sarcasm. I am not worried about letting my child watch a few minutes of TV nor am I guilty of it or stressed about it. It was a joke.

Clifford the Big Red Dog is a joke. (laugh a little…)
I’ve been debating on whether to blog about this or not.
I don’t really want to.
Because it’s not a parenting moment I’m particularly proud of.
Or something I want to brag about.
Or something that I even want to tell you.
Heck, my husband doesn’t even know about it.
But.
I’m human. I’m a mom. This is my parenting fail or succeed blog.
So, *deep breath* here it goes…..
I let my child watch Clifford the Big Red Dog.
It was for less than 5 minutes, maybe 3 1/2 if I was keeping track.
I just had to do one tiny ity bity thing.
I don’t remember what it was, but I think it was important.
So this idea occurred to me.
Sit your child in front of the television and see if he likes it.
Horrible, no good, very bad idea.
I turned on the television, switched it to a loud obnoxious television show with a large, I mean oversize dog walking around that is red and I let him watch it for a few minutes.
I didn’t like it.
I turned it off pretty fast and told him that won’t be happening for another long time.
I still don’t like that I did it.
You know the worst part about it?
The part that I really hate?
He liked it.
He liked Clifford the Big Red Dog.
I don’t encourage children (especially under the age of 2) watching TV.
I dont encourage children eating sugar.
Or drinking sugar.
I don’t encourage Clifford the Big Red Dog.
But it happened.
Clifford the Big Red Dog appeared in our home for 5 minutes.
Darn you, Clifford.

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

34 thoughts on “Confession

  1. It happens, hon, and you are AMAZING in that this is the first time, and that it lasted only 3 1/2 minutes, and you feel bad about it. There are a lot of us out there–the majority of us–that can't say that.

    I HATE that I can't say that. I have done it. More than once.

    You are such a special mom. Lucas is so very lucky to have a mom who is so devoted to him and his development. He is so incredibly fortuante to have a mom who is legitimately doing what is best for him, even if it's not the most convenient thing for her.

    And of course he LIKED it. It's designed for him to like. It's baby crack! It's a BIG RED DOG! The fact that he liked it says NOTHING about you or your parenting skills!

    Which are awesome, by the way!

    XOXO

  2. Haha, welcome to real life. It's pretty easy to have those ideas and judgements before you have kids and then real life happens. It's not bad. Just like anything, as long as it is in moderation, you are good.

  3. You don't think you're being even a little hard on yourself? If I felt that guilty every time I did something that went against what the experts say is best in order to simply get through the day, I'd be DROWNING in guilt. Please, give yourself a break. Do what works, not what you think should work.

    There will be countless times in parenthood when we'll do things that we were previously convinced would permanently damage our child. I promise, your son will not only survive, but he'll thrive – despite his 5 minutes of television.

  4. I know where you are coming from but after four children I have learned that life is about teaching our children self-control and moderation. So, even tv in small amounts is not going to harm him. I don't allow my children to watch much at ALL(even my older ones) but they do watch it occansionaly and they are active children with great imaginations and a love for the outdoors. So, rest assured that just becuase you did it once doesn't mean you are a bad mother. You showed Lucas that tv is here and it is fun but it is only for awhile and we don't watch it all the time. A lesson learned for Lucas and a chore accomplished for you. See it isn't all bad!

  5. You are such a great mommy. While I try very hard not to entertain my now 5 yr old and almost 2 yr old with TV, there are some days I just need a few minutes to get something done, and yes we use the TV to get the kids to be still. However I try to limit what they watch to either something like veggie tales, or something on PBS which right now with their line up everything is a teaching show which means my kids are learning *something* even if it's just how to be a good friend (from clifford)

    I don't think that this is a huge parenting fail, I believe it's a succeed because you know you don't like it. You know it wasn't your “best' mommy momment. It's a succeed that YOU know who you are as a mother and what you want for your kids.

    *hug*

  6. I make a big deal whenever anyone else tries to let my kid watch tv. For the first 6 months whenever it was on in the same room as her I rush and grab her and take her into the other room. I still don't allow her to really watch it. But I don't freak out when we're at someone else's house and it's on, anymore. I actually tired to get her to watch TV once. I needed to get stuff done and she didn't want to hang out with her dad at all. She just cried and cried so I told Casey to watch a cartoon with her. It didn't work. She wasn't interested at all. But she did stop crying. She got down out of her dad's lap and went to play with her toys. I'm pretty excited that she won't watch tv. It makes my job alot easier.

    And for the sugar thing, what happens at grandma's stays at grandma's.

  7. I hate to admit that when my little one was teething in her second and third tooth at 4months old, the only thing I could get to calm her down at 3am was hockey games and I let her. Sure, it was only 2 minutes so that she would calm enough to go to sleep, but that didn't make it right.

  8. Oooooooh hell in a handbasket!!!! That's you, girl!!

    I'M JOKING. In a few days he will have forgotten ALL about it and will be no worse for the wear.

    My confession? I do let DD watch TV. But I didn't let her watch ANY yesterday, or today, yet, and she's been in SUCH a good mood both yesterday and today!! Coincidence? I doubt it.

  9. I'm there with the person who said welcome to real life. I am a Reading Specialist and my son watches TV. I usually allow one 30 minute show a day (he is 3). Especially the Leap Frog Letter Factory is awesome for teaching phonemic awareness. The truth is, it's more interesting for him to learn songs about phonemes than it is for me to drill him with flashcards. I do agree that young children under 2 should not be stuck in front of a TV, but especially when you have another child, it is sometimes a necessity.

  10. You are not a bad mom. Heck, you are just like the rest of us! When I just had one child I was very strict and tried to follow a lot of those same rules. I freaked out when my baby was “almost” a year old and someone gave him a tiny (and I mean tiny) bit of chocolate. Now that I have 4 children(and one on the way) I realize that a little bit of sugar, a little tv (monitored and not all of the time) and a little peace for mom is never a bad thing. By all means, you are a good mom for following the rules, but you are not a bad mom for letting your child watch a bit of tv. Actually some television has been known to stimulate their brains. πŸ™‚ I think PBS is the best program on the television! πŸ™‚

  11. We are a tv household too. My kids love tv. They dont watch all day, but they do have a few shows they love. They are shows that they learn from so I am ok with it.

  12. Kacee-
    It was a joke.

    I'm not freaking out about this.

    FYI everyone, I don't think a little TV here and there is a huge deal. However, I DO think that TV under the age of 2 isn't appropriate.

    I think a 3 year old watching 30 minutes of TV is a lot different than a 10 month old watching 30 minutes.

  13. I honestly think some TV shows are good learning tools. I did awful in Spanish class but with the help of Dora and Diego (though for some reason Dora really annoys me) I actually learned a good bit of Spanish words as did my daughter. I also like that they get the kids up and moving. Also the younger you start with a second language the better chance they have of actually learning it.
    Same with sign language, they have some great videos out there for young kids to learn from. Anyway…
    I'm glad you were joking and not seriously freaking out and feeling really guilty! πŸ™‚

  14. I wonder what WAHMs do since they need to work at home and watch their children at the same time. Do those women allow their children to watch TV? How do they keep an ONLY child entertained all day AND work at the same time?

  15. haha… wait till you have three or four and are trying to get something done… πŸ™‚

    I'm with the person who said her kids just weren't interested… they'll watch maybe a couple of minutes, then they're done and ready to play. Except for my six yr old… she could watch forever and ever and loses any ability to function when the tv's on. So we turn it off a lot πŸ™‚

  16. The Clifford books are really cute. When my oldest kids were little we had some of them that came with a cassette tape & they LOVED listening to the story.

    Lucas is still pretty young for Clifford, but there are definitely worse things that you could have plopped him in front of.

    (((Hugs)))

  17. HAHAHA!! Behold the TV!! Our show of choice is Yo Gabba Gabba. I pretty much leave the TV off unless it's nap time and then I'm trying to wind her down.

  18. Ha! This is hilarious. I don't encourage TV either, but oh my goodness…Caleb is so attracted to it that I don't know what to do sometimes! For example, I will be nursing him in the living room while with my hubby (when he's watching football) and Caleb will bend over backwards (literally) to see the TV. What's a mama to do? ; )

  19. That's okay. Sometimes we need a break. If the television show is educational and your child likes it, there is nothing wrong with letting Clifford keep an eye on your child while you get some me time.

  20. If you're a terrible mom, then I need to be arrested. Maddie watches at least 30 minutes of tv a day. Honestly, it's perfect for those times when she's all wound up and needs to chill out. In theory, she'd sit quietly and read a stack of books, but for some reason, those huge characters on television just grab her attention so much better! I try not to use it as a crutch, but it is something that she really does enjoy, so I don't sweat it.

    She tends to like the most over the top, outrageous shows…much to my dismay!

  21. My kids are grown now, but my second child discovered Sesame Street when you was 3 months (yes months) old. Her three year old brother was watching it. She was sitting in her walker (we used those then, it was prehistoric times) and it caught her eye. She absolutely LOVED it!

    I attachment parented (before it had a name) a bottle never touched her mouth, we co-slept, they both nursed practically until kindergarten, but yes, they watched TV.

    I was very picky about WHAT they watched, but yes, they watched. Interestingly though, at 25 my son essentially never watches TV and at 22 my daughter only watches an occasional HULU. Go figure.

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