Ask the Moms: Do You Homeschool Your Kids?

I don’t plan on homeschooling my children. I believe public schools are good for kids for social aspects and provide many learning opportunities besides the “traditional” subject areas taught. I believe as parents, its our job to teach them the way in which they should go, no matter what school they go to.

However. There is a big however here for me. Even though I don’t plan on traditionally homeschooling my children, I do plan on using homeschooling tools and lessons as part of daily life. An activity after school (I want to make learning fun!) or a book we read on the weekends. I love reading homeschooling blogs and getting ideas for good books to read, crafts to make and fun activities to do. Just because a child comes home at 3pm, doesn’t mean they need to stop learning. Just because we’re not homeschooling our kids, doesn’t mean its not our job to teach them things at home.

Did I learn a lot in elementary school? Did I learn about geography and World War 1 in middle school? Well, probably, but I forgot it all, so not really. Did my parents teach me more about life than my middle school teachers? Maybe. Probably.
I’m always so interested to hear why people choose to homeschool their kids and why some people are totally agains the idea. I hear a lot of ” I don’t want my kids to be socially awkward,” and ” I don’t want my kids in a public school that is dangerous and full of swear words and drugs.”
Interesting on both accounts. Are all schools dangerous? Just because your children stay home with you all day does it mean they’re not going to know how to play with other children? My answer is no to both.
What do you think? If you homeschool your kids, I would love to hear why! What do you love about it? What’s the hardest part? If you don’t homeschool, why not? Have you ever thought about it? What are beliefs on the issue? I respect both sides completely. I would love to hear your thoughts!

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

43 thoughts on “Ask the Moms: Do You Homeschool Your Kids?

  1. I homeschool for a lot of reasons. The primary one is that I don't want my kids going to a place where the people in authority are almost certain not to share my children's beliefs. The Bible says for us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, and I can't think of a bigger yoke than contracting for the sharing of my children's up-bringing. I have more reasons than that, of course. I don't believe public schools can teach my children *healthy* social skills. It teaches them to huddle in groups of their own age, sex, and color, and to view everyone else as “outsiders”. That's a huge hurdle to overcome once a person moves into the adult world and has to be friendly and friends with every age group, race and gender.

    As for the social awkwardness, well, I can't think of anything more awkward than a group of kids that think they don't belong with another group just because of an age difference of a few months or years.

    I very much prefer homeschool socialization. When we get together to socialize, the purpose is *to socialize*. Not to work at separate desks and only speak for 2 minutes at a time before the teachers says “We are not here to socialize! Get to work!”. It's fun to see teenagers hanging out with pre-teens, who play with toddlers. And none of them ever wonders what someone else is going to think of them for “playing with the little kids”, like there's something wrong with that.

    And no one ever assumes moms and dads JUST WON'T GET IT. It's wonderful to have community instead of having everybody separated by their differences.

    Academically, there's no contest, at least in my state. History is woefully neglected, and I don't believe it's possible to raise a thinking child without a firm foundation in history. I could write a book, but my 5 year old needs me to hear him read from Aesop's Fables right now. πŸ™‚ There's nothing like homeschooling! I really recommend it, even if it's just an after-public-school pursuit!

  2. You will figure out later on when your child begins school that you will not have time to do much with him after school. In kindergarten my son was sent home with assignments everyday; a book and worksheets. I could do nothing with him by the time we completed those and then it was time to start dinner. School for us interupted what education was already taking place. Since we are a military family our post library allows us to check out unlimited number of books. Sometimes I bring home as many as thirty. We had to stop that. He also didn't have time for his documentaries, or cd-roms, or anything else. Our house has more educational things than an elementary classroom. He has a oregon scientific talking globe, He has his own laptop and cd-roms. We even have a white board that we work at. We have piles of flash cards for everything. We have charts in his room and our little office room. He has access to an unlimited number of documentaries and books. The school had him listed at the wrong reading level because that particular class only had books to a certain level. He was reading paragraphs from library books in kindergarten. My child learns his social skills from his parents, and other mature adults. The meaning of socialization is learning social skills and wisdom from elders. When he was in school 1st grade he learned the bigot word “N” and how to poke people with pencils. I use to be a juvenile detention officer and when he is older I don't want him to value the opinion of his peers over mine or other sane logical mature and wise adults. Look at statistics of our youth and teenagers for diseases, pregnancy, suicide, and other things as well. My son has friends that are from public school and homeschool and an army load of military brats in the neighborhood. You are already on the right track looking into education and asking questions. Also even if you child is not school age and you are teaching him you are already a homeschooler. I recommend that you join a homeschool group right now and give that a trial run. When your child is old enough to go to school and you have taught him a lot on your own you will have mixed feelings. I speak from expirence about that. Happy Valentines! Have a good day!

  3. I always said I couldn't homeschool because I am not confident in my abilities to teach my kids all the things they would learn academically in school. Particularly math. Yes, I can teach a child to read and write and count and memorize history, I've done it, but I'm sure there are things I'd miss.

    I do like the away-from-mom socialization aspect of public school, too. I think it's good for kids to be away from their parents sometimes.

    I have nothing bad to say about those who homeschool and those who don't.

  4. I want my children to get an education that fits them. In a classroom with 30 or more kids the teacher simply can not customize the curriculum for each child. With 3 kids I can do that. That is my main reason.

    My second reason is that my memories of school mostly include bullying, drugs, and sitting under our desks with the lights off for 4 hours because a kids was wandering around the campus with a gun.

    I'm young. I've only been out of high school for 6 years and I only did 2 years before I had enough and just got my GED. In those 2 years we had between 10 – 15 bomb threats with at least 2 being actual bombs, the gun incident, an escaped convect hiding in the school, plus the drugs everywhere, kids getting beaten up, and having sex in the bathrooms. This stuff starts in middle school. There was a big police drug bust at my school when I was in 6th grade and these aren't bad schools. Just normal everyday middle sized town schools.

    Its normal, no big deal, until I had kids of my own. I don't want them so jaded that seeing a drug deal in the place where they spend most of their time is okay.

    I don't know if the younger school are much different. My 8 year old brother-in-law has kissed a girl with tongue and has a “serous” girl friend. I don't remember that when I was in elementary school.

    This got a lot longer than I had planned but I guess I've been thinking about it more as my daughter would be starting Kindergarten this fall if I wasn't going to homeschool. I've been bombarded by family members trying to convince me that it is best to put her in school.

  5. i think i could just second what cindy said.

    my main reason for homeschooling is the biblical aspect i can instill in my children.

    and for socialization, we do a lot of things outside of the home. dance class, story time, mom's group. in school i guess i don't want my kids to be 'taught' by their peers respect and love. because i know it won't be taught how it should be by fellow five year olds. i want to show them the respect and love that jesus shows, and how i want them to show it.

    my husband was public schooled and is very very very shy. so i don't think that because someone is homeschooled means they'll be socially awkward. it depends on the parents and the kid.

    the hardest part of homeschooling for me so far has been budgeting my time wisely for it. i also love being able to see my kids 'get it'. and remember it. i'm so blessed to give them the one on one time they may not get in the school system. a friend of mine who is a former teacher has told me in her class if one kid out of 25 didn't get it, it didn't matter you kept moving on. what if my kid was that one? it makes me sad to think that there are kids falling between the cracks, and noone is doing anything about it.

    i also firmly believe that homeschooling is a calling. and that you're not a better parent if you homeschool. you're just following god's calling for your life. i also believe that when my kids are old enough and feel led by god to go to school, i will pray as well and see if that where god leads them.

  6. My MIL has homeschooled her 9 kids and they are all very social. The little kids are so active in sports, music and art. They have lots of friends outside the home but still enjoy playing and being with each other.
    I think joining a homeschooling group to see what it's like is a great idea that I'm going to look into.
    My husband is not really for homeschooling but I'm sure if I was set on it I could talk him into it. He was homeschooled the least of all his brothers and sisters because of when his mom started and his wanting to go to public school. His parents agreed to a christian school for high school. I think it's important that the child be okay with homeschooling too.
    Out of the 9 kids- my husband has a PHd, one brother has a masters, one's a cop, one sister is a Med Doc, one a social worker and the rest are still in school. They all have turned out great!

  7. I am a homeschooling veteran. I began homeschooling back in 1998 when my daughter started 2nd grade.

    There were many reasons for us, but the main reason was our desire to be in charge of the decision making for our children. We wanted to decide what, when, where, why, and how our children learned.

    Our secondary reasons changed over the years, especially when we added learning disabilities. However, our main reason remained the same.

    Two years ago, two of our younger children were diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. These added challenges were more than I felt I could handle. This caused us to evaluate and make changes.

    For now, some of our children are in public school and others are homeschooled. For us, the decision is individual.

    My desire is to have them all at home, but I recognise my weaknesses and know that we have made the best decision for each child at this point.

    Open for change, though, whenever the need arises!

    Lisa @
    All That and a Box of Rocks

  8. I don't think that my husband and I will be able to homeschool, even if we wanted to. Once have kids, we'll both need to go back to work, so our kids will have to go to school.

    A lot of the fears people have about schools I think depend on what school your kids go to. I grew up in a very small town, so there wasn't a lot of scare of gangs or violence that can occur in big cities. But my school did still have underaged drinking, drugs, and bullying. Those were things that I learned to overcome. Had I been homeschooled, I wouldn't have been given the opportunity to learn about all the diversities in life or learned how to deal with things like bullies.

    I think it's very important to teach your children values and morals at home that they can utilize while they're at school. My parents were very good at that with me and so I never hung out with what's perceived as the “wrong crowd”. I didn't do drugs or drinking and I was respectful to others. That's something that we as parents have to teach our kids, regardless of whether they are homeschooled or not. But I think it's important for kids to see other views outside your home so they can learn to think for themselves. πŸ™‚

  9. amimental dot blogspot dot com She is a former homeschooler who works in a public school after care program. I'm sure she would write/has written some things that would be right up your alley. Also a lot of her blog friends are home schoolers.

  10. I am homeschooling for a few reasons. First of all, I live in a heavily violent area and as long as we remain living here I would never, ever send my kids to this school district. Its plagued by gangs and drugs and crime and frankly its just not an option.

    Another reason I am homeschooling is because my belief system is different from that taught in schools. As having been raised in public school and having attended college I can speak first hand of the indoctrination that occurs in what should be and unbiased school system. Instead of spending every evening trying to undo the false information spread to my children, I'd rather just be the one to teach them. Furthermore, I don't believe that private schools are any better than public in this regard.

    Do I worry about my kids being socially awkward? No. There are many co-op programs for homeschooled children to attend classes and do activities with other children. They will have plenty of exposure to other kids through relatives, church programs, Sunday School, and other such activities. Contrary to popular belief, homeschooled children are only as sheltered as their parents allow them to be. Sure, if you hole them up in your house all day they will never learn about the outside world. But if you keep them involved in activities with other children and other people they will learn the same coping schools that they would get in school.

  11. My sisters have done home schooling, public school and private christian school all at different times. It is just what worked for them.

    I really wanted to home school Jacob and am still strongly considering it – except for kindergarten. I love how the classroom is so fun and such an exciting place to be. I really want him to have that. After, I will have to re-evaluate and see for the future.

    For me, it also was dependant on where we were living. We were in the city before and not one school I felt comfortable for Jacob to eventually go to. But now I am in a small christian community in MB where they still teach Christan values at school and have no hesitation.

  12. We homeschool. Honestly, I never dreamed in a million years that I would be a homeschooling mom. (Let's just say, I'm not equipped with the NORMAL “mom patience”.) HA!

    We were all set to put my daughter into a private school….paperwork filled out and everything.

    Homeschooling kept popping up in my mind. DOH! Was that you God?? lol

    We prayed about it and came to the decision that was best for our little family.

    A lot of people say “I want my children to be in public school for the social aspect.”

    Ok, yeah…I can see that. However, my kids are doing just fine in that area and we have been homeschooling for 5 years now.
    (Daughter is in 5th grade, Son is in the first and I have one that will enter K-5 this coming school year)

    Have we thought about putting them in public schools? YEP! ALL THE TIME especially when I go bonkers every other week or so.

    Will we? I doubt it.

    I am concerned for their safety. Call me MOMMA BEAR! I keep hearing horror stories about children bringing guns to school, fighting, getting arrested, metal detectors…. AY YI YI! It was not like that when I was a kid.

    Plus, the things they are teaching now days. WOWZA! They are doing a sex ed class here in the 2nd grade. SECOND GRADE!! uhh NO!

    Homeschooling is not for everyone but it works for our family.

  13. I was actually homeschooled!!! (I graduated in '06) And, I went to public school (for 6th grade, by choice) and I went to private school for K-2nd. I loved being homeschooled for a number of reasons and I can't say enough good things about it, but most importantly (at the time) was that I didn't waste hours of time sitting in a classroom. I did the work I needed to get done and I could be done for the day in however long that took (I'm referring mostly to jr. high/high school since the lower grades are much more involved with mom). I was able to focus on whatever I was interested in for the rest of the day (which in high school was ballet). I honestly can't think of a single thing I disliked about being homeschooled, but I can think of lots I disliked about classroom education.

    I don't see how, very easily (at least), you can raise your children up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord if they are away from you for 8 hours a day surrounded by ungodly influences & under the charge of the government. Its a noble idea to have your children being a witness, but not a very realistic one. I understand a lot of people don't have a choice to homeschool… but if you do have that choice- you should!!!

    Religious reasons aside – I LOVE to learn (not in school, because thats not an environment that promotes learning for most kids). But, even the most avid learner will not want to come home from school, only to do more “school” with mom. Like others have said, they will have homework on their own.

    “Socialization” I love this reason against homeschooling. What is socialization? If the primary goal is to socialize with only peers of your exact age and social class (typically) then public school is great. But, with homeschooling you can socialize with everyone, with no time limits. Mom, dad, baby sister, your elderly neighbor that is teaching you about their experience in WWII, the mailman, whoever! The important thing is to utilize the people & places around you as teaching tools or mentors, which has a benefit of socialization. I think their is a right way to homeschool and a wrong way… but, to paraphrase some guy I heard on the radio the other day “The worst job you could do for your child will be better than the best job that public school could do.” One of my top reasons for wanting to homeschool my own children, is that I want to raise a thinker, not a follower.

    I HIGHLY recommend the book “Dumbing Us Down” by John Taylor Gatto. He was a High School teacher in NY for 30 years and won teacher of the year. He has very interesting thoughts about public school, socialization, how children learn, etc. Its only 100 pages too, so its a quick read. I cannot recommend it enough – it is a great book. He has also written much more detailed books on the history of institutionalized education, but as an intro Dumbing Us Down is great. oh, but actually the larger book is online for free here http://www.johntaylorgatto.com/chapters/index.htm

    here is another great book online for free – Charlotte Mason. http://www.amblesideonline.org/CM/toc.html

    There are more activities for homeschooling than one might imagine. My city had its own homeschool sports teams, graduation, prom, various co-ops that held their own classes (especially helpful for high school like chemistry and advanced math, or speech/debate).

    My mom always said that the best education she ever got was homeschooling us.

  14. My kids are in public school and thriving. We've had an amazing experience with our kids' elementary school and the teachers, especially have been awesome; they HAVE been able and willing to 'customize' teaching styles and curriculums when my fourth grader has struggled with certain subjects (something I would NOT be able to do, because I am NOT a teacher and have no clue about different learning styles or methods of teaching certain academic subjects, not to mention my lack of patience). I've never felt my children were unsafe or or being 'taught' something that conflicts with my own personal ideologies. All that being said, we are NOT religious and we live in a fairly liberal and diverse community that is considered to be very safe and has one of the best school districts in our state (and we pay an arm and a leg in taxes, too!). If one of my children were struggling academically or socially and the public school, for whatever reason, was not able to meet their needs, or if for some reason, we could no longer live in this community and had to move somewhere where there were issues with violence and drugs in the schools, though, I would absolutely consider homeschooling.

  15. Socialization is such a misunderstood idea. As long as children are around people at home and at the store and at soccer practice and at church, etc., they are in a naturally socializing environment (so much more so than an artificial classroom setting). So whether they attend public school or school at home, “socialization” takes place in the general living of life!

  16. i must say i LOVE the respectful attitude of everyone. this could've turned into something not so…

    …as a homeschooling mom i've learned to live in the moment. i'm teaching kindergarten. i do NOT need to worry about teaching geometry right now!! ((because i hate it, and am dreading teaching it!)) and if you research curriculums, they are SO helpful in teaching. when talking to other homeschooling (who've graduated kids) moms i've heard by high school the kids are generally teaching themselves and there isn't much for you to do. and they're tailoring the needs to what the kids want to learn about. i'll still end up teaching them geometry…i'm just hoping there's something easy out there for me to use to teach them.

    if we're called to do it, we'll be equipped to do it!!

  17. The Whites,

    I think if we have the choice AND If we feel led to homeschool and want to THEN we should. Sure, a lot of us have a choice. But no one should choose to homeschool their kids unless they want to and believe in it.

    I also think you can definitely raise your children to be Christians even if they go to a public school. It might be harder because you're not with them every hour of the day but that is part of life. you can't always be with them. Its our job to teach them and raise them to be Christians if we want.

    Many many people go to a public school but are raised in a christian home and are christians. Yes, there may be a lot of bad influences at schools, but thats where the job of a parent comes in. To teach them they way in which they should and should not go.

    just my thoughts πŸ™‚

  18. oh, also! For those of you who homeschool (or anyone actually!) what are your favorite homeschooling blogs?

    I don't know of too many… I just found SimpleHomeschool which I'm following and a couple others… can't remember the name off the top of my head.

    Recommendations for good learning/homeschooling sites?

  19. OH yeah… I guess I forgot the “wanting” to homeschool factor playing a part. πŸ˜‰

    And, sure, I know great Christians who went to public school and I know kids who were homeschooled & turned out very rebellious. But, I guess I just see it this way: as parents to the children the Lord has entrusted to us, He will hold us accountable for them, not their teachers, or peers. ME! So, I want to be the main influence in their lives. kind of scary when I think about it. lol

  20. I just happen to be a 2nd grade teacher at a fantastic school. Over half of us teachers (including the principals and superintendent) are Christians and it is a great environment. I have had more moms come up to me saying “If my kids didn't go here, I would definitely home school them.” In fact, even though I am a teacher, I have strongly considered home schooling my own children someday. It does hurt to hear some moms on here say that we teacher's don't do our jobs but let me just be honest by saying, it's not the first time I've heard it. I hate being stereotyped but it happens. I have 13 children in my class and am usually able to reach out to each of them daily. I guess I am saying all of this so that you know that every school district is different. Check out your options before you make any solid decisions. I agree that children need to be involved with other children but there are places to do that outside of school too. As for not being able to raise Christian children in a public school, (as hard as it can be to keep Christian values in a public environment) I went to a public school and turned out just fine! πŸ™‚ I hope my thoughts can help some. They were a little sporadic but honest!

  21. I would home school my kids if I had the patience for that.

    I believe that the public school system in the United States is broken. They are running out of money, over crowded and are pretty much run by the teacher's unions.

    My kids attend a Catholic school. I would never send them to a public school unless for some reason I just can't afford the Catholic schools anymore.

  22. That's so funny- I started writing a blog on this very subject last week, but never finished it. This is such a hot topic-there are so many parents singing the praises of homeschooling, while still others are nay-say-ers. I agree with Life Happens During Naptime-that the whole social awkwardness that many speak of really has to do with the social situation of the parents and how they decide to in turn socialize their children. My fiancee's step-father's 5 children are devout Christians, and were also home schooled. They live in the middle of nowhere, which has created a dilemma in the socialization department. They pretty much just kept to themselves. They are very nice kids, but I can absolutely tell they were deprived socially, and could be called “socially awkward”. Maybe in that situation, it might have been better to send them to a public school? I'm not sure. I agree with you also in that I think it's our job as parents to lay the foundation for whatever beliefs you may have-and if you have a strong relationship with your children, then there should be nothing to worry about. I cannot relate to the whole religious aspect as I don't believe in any sort of organized religion-the only thing I believe in is being kind, considerate, and treat others the way you would want to be treated and if you can teach that to your children as well as being open with them about important issues, than I believe they will be just fine, regardless.

  23. Samantha, we're not home schooling yet, but we most likely will be. We live in a nice area with nice schools and I probably would consider sending him off to school if it didn't mean that he would be away more than half of our waking hours. I especially don't like that we have 5 and 6 year olds (and 4 if you send them to preschool here) in a school setting for so many hours:-(

  24. Not homeschooling, it's just not for me however I'm open to it if the school situation becomes negative. Right now it's wonderful and I spend a lot of time there volunteering and making sure it stays that way.

    That said, I worked at a job where I dealt with 300+ children and bar none and without exception the most reliable, responsible and socially mature were those who were homeschooled. Now there may be homeschooled children who are terribly inadequate socially but it was enough to convince me that the “social” argument is without merit as a reason to send a child to school rather than homeschool. In fact most of the non social behaviour my kids exhibit come from school..the good stuff comes from the modelling they see at home and from other adults in their lives.

  25. I thought that I was going to home school my daughter after I wasn't happy with what I seen while she was in Kindergarten. I Love the idea of tailoring the curriculum to her. I like having more of a say in what she experiences “socially”. I unfortunately starting dealing with some health issues before I became pregnant with my second child and even worse once she was born. I realized that it would be incredibly difficult for to be her source of daily education if I wasn't well. We instead moved to another school district that is just a millions time better than the last. I am in constant contact with her teacher, who is amazing.

    As far as beliefs, we have talked about it and she understands that not everyone believes in Jesus but that we do and I think it's strengthen her faith because she still talks to her friends about him and says how much she hopes everyone believes in him soon, bless her heart.

    I think that's its perfectly ok for you to send Lucas to school. You are a very loving and involved mom, just stay that way and be involved with his school and in his classroom. I wouldn't go too crazy acquiring too many supplies to teach him when he's home. Honestly in my experience the best teaching opportunities happen already in daily life. My daughter helps me cook which incorporates reading, following instructions, math and safety. I have her count my change when I empty my purse. When we go grocery shopping all we do is talk about where the food comes from, how it grows, how much we need for a certain meal etc. Walking in the park, looking at the stars, going to the beach…all teaching opportunities. I hope that helps πŸ™‚

    Oh, the Dollar Tree also has some great items. I have alphabet borders both it print and cursive in the girls room. Charts, calendars, awards etc there is so much!

  26. I am a first grade educator in the public school system and let me say that I love my job! I am also a believer and love the Lord! I think the issue of homeschooling vs. public education is a personal issue as we see in all the responses. I have found in my classroom that it is definitely an individual issue as well. I have had many families that have some of their children in public school, while another is homeschooled. That is the beauty of differentiation. It might be a great fit to learn at school for one kiddo, while another homeschooling would be a better fit. I also agree with one of the comments above that each school district is different as well as each school. Our staff largely consists of Christians and I have 19 kiddos in my classroom. I do feel like we are able to offer services to kids that might not be able to get it otherwise – physical therapy, occupational therapy, language/communication services and support, etc. I enjoy reading these comments, as I am realizing how much of the benefits of homeschooling I am able to provide in my own classroom. I have an 11 month old and when she is ready for school, my husband and I will decide what fits her as an individual. I would just say whatever you choose – please be consistent. I also have had parents go back and forth between homeschool and public and as parents, we know that good teaching practices are consistency.

  27. We have officially decided to homeschool Avery. I think it's VERY beneficial for her and will do her more good than harm.
    I don't want her around Drugs and sex and peer pressure. I want to be able to teach her at her own learning level (to an extent) and I want to be able to have the one on one interaction with her.
    We will do a lot of Co-Ops and things that offer her interaction with other children and field trips as well, Science center, zoo, aquarium, nature center etc. I think it will be great for her!

    Also I got pregnant and had Avery at 16, so I really don't want that for her. I'm not saying it won't happen, but it will be diminished by homeschooling.

    That's my point of view though πŸ™‚

  28. I will also say that Daddy has his Master's in Psychology and is in his PhD program right now for Mental Health Counseling! He's studied children and socialization and he feels this is best for her as well. If she asks to try out public school for a year or so, I will probably let her, but I'm hoping she'll come back to homeschooling in the end.

  29. These are all interesting, well written, heartfelt thoughts. I am a 2nd grade public school teacher and my own children ages 2.5, and 9 months are obviously too young to go to school. That being said though, they will be attending public schools. I have to work and so does my husband. I can't say because I don't have the luxury of staying home, but I think even if I was a stay at home mom my children would be in public schools. I do worry about middle school and high school years though. I grew up in a VERY small town and we live there still, but it's just not as sheltered as it was when I grew up. I guess I have some more time to think about this before my kids are ready to head to Kindergarten, but in my 7 years of teaching I've worked with some awesome teachers and some really great kids and their families. I don't want my own kids to miss out out opportunities that I am able to afford my students as a teacher. There are so many wonderful aspects of public education. I'm definitely not saying it's pefect:)

  30. Oh so much to say on this matter! I don't have time to read all of the comments so I will leave as breif a comment as I can and hope it hasn't already been said.

    I am beginning our homeschoool this Sept. I am thrilled about it! I am not at all worried about socialization since my kid salready know how to share and interact with other cihldren more than most families I know. They learn that everyday with thier siblings. Also they see children at the library at story time, the park, at church, at play dates, at in the future at homeschool group. I so not believe that children need to be surrounded by 20 of their peers for seven hours a day in order to learn how to behave around other children.

    I want whoever teaches my children to have the same worldview as I do. I want it to be a biblical worldview. I think that affects every subject that they will be taught. I want them to be surrounded by someone who loves them the majority of the time especially while they are still so young.

    My number one reason to educate my children is becuase the bible teaches it. Deuteronomy 6 tells us to teach our children His ways all the time. That was enough for me. That coupled with the scare of school shootings, bullies, abuse, unwanted influences, and a hundred other reasons helped us to choose to educate our children at home:)I wish I knew more homeschooling blogs but I am new at it.

  31. I'd love to homeschool, but for financial reasons, I've put my son into K at the public school until a time where I can pull him out and homeschool him. That is MY goal. But my son LOVES his school…I don't know what the best answer is: what I want? or what he wants? I will homeschool him over the summer and we'll see what is best…tough choice…

  32. My children are babies still, but I have thought a lot about this. I live in an area that has great public schools, very safe and most teachers share our same faith and values, so I would not be against public schools at all. I can understand not wanting kids to be socially awkward, but I agree with you that they don't have to be just because they are homeschooled. If you homeschool you should definitely have your kids involved in social things such as church groups and organized group sports, dance, or music (something like that). I might homeschool my children, but for a different reason than some parents would say. My husband travels for work, and may be gone for months at a time. We have made a decision to keep our family together as much as possible because we feel that is very important. If our kids are in public or private school here at home then we will be tied down here, and my husband would have to go without us. If I homeschool then we can take school anywhere. The traveling would also provide great teaching opportunities with history, art, geography, and more. There are so many things that our kids would get to see, and it would be so much better than sitting behind a desk. So those are my reasons for thinking that I may do it.

  33. This is my 1st year homeschooling my children. My daughter is in K & my son does a bit of pre-K(when he will sit down!). I have always known I wanted to homeschool & my husband was on board. I can teach my children much better than 1 teacher with 29 other students. One on one is so much better than 1 on 29. I can tailor my lessons to how my child learns the best. I can focus on what she is interested in as well. My daughter is excellent in Math & we finished her Kindergarten math book in November!
    I have never considered the socialization aspect of homeschooling. I just don't see it as an issue at all. Unless you never leave your house your children will learn how to socialize with other kids. Not an issue for us…we are always out & about!
    It is a person decision and I wish you the best.

  34. This statement makes me sad for you => “I believe public schools are good for kids for social aspects and provide many learning opportunities besides the “traditional” subject areas taught.”

    those learning opportunities include:
    what is an orgasm
    how to put on a condom
    every curse word
    how to be a bully
    sexual jokes
    how to not talk like a mature person

    and that's just kindergarten, can you imagine how “socialized” they'll be by 5th grade??

    πŸ™‚

  35. Samantha, you know I love your blog and your heart. I didn't want that comment to sound so negative but it came off that way…perhaps it was the fact that I was interrupted by huge screams as the kids fought it out — now that's good socialization lol

  36. Late to the discussion, so no one may read this, but I wanted to put something in. We have our children as children for a very short time. I have never met a mom of a teenager that said “whew…I'm glad I'm done with those little kids…that took FOREVER!” Yes, we are glad when they grow up, but it just happens so fast.

    For me (and everyone is different), 5 years isn't enough time to have that kid all to myself. I mean, before my kiddos go to traditional school (public or private) I want to be sure that they can discern between right and wrong, who they should listen to and who they shouldn't, who they should be close friends with and who they shouldn't, how to tell the difference between a godly world view and a worldly world view.

    That age is different for every kid. I know that my 4 year old isn't there yet. I highly doubt that he will be there by 5, 6, or even 7. I just don't know how 4 hours a day is enough time to really instill your values into a child if they are with someone else for 8. I mean…it seems that the person who is with the child for the most time has the greatest influence on them. Maybe that teacher is an incredible person that you love, respect, and admire. (my mom was a teacher for a long time). Even so, no matter how wonderful that teacher might be, I don't think that they can substitute for the influence that I can give. (I apply this to day care situations as well)

    I am not saying that school is bad…my kids will most likely go to a regular school eventually. I will just have to admit at that point that I am no longer the primary influencer over my child. By that time I want them to know how to seek out correct influences.

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