Middle of the Night: Lucas Sitting in his Crib

Last night Lucas sat in his crib – not crying- just sitting in his crib for a total of 30 minutes. It’s totally weird to me, and I don’t know if it’s a regular thing with him. I’d love to hear your thoughts on it or if anything, I just want to share it because it’s so weird to me!
My husband and I are so stumped with it, and he suggested that I “ask the twitter kids” (ha!) but I decided this would require more than a few characters. πŸ™‚
First, a little background. Lucas goes to bed between 7-7:30 every night. He goes down very easily. He doesn’t cry or fuss, he is tired by 7 and falls asleep within a few minutes. He wakes up somewhere between 8-9am. Occasionally he will wake up at 5 or 6 and I change his diaper, rock him and lay him back down. He goes back to sleep very easily and quickly, and will wake up a few hours later. He is my alarm clock usually, so I sleep until I hear him, then I go in and get him.
So. Last night.
He woke up at 5:15am. He was crying, so I went in his room. His pacifier was on the floor, which was why he was crying. That darn thing.. if he can’t find it in his sleep or if he sees it on the floor he cries for it. Anyways, so I changed his diaper, turned on his music and rocked him for about 5 minutes. I laid him in his bed but he would not lay down. Usually he rolls right over and goes back to sleep, but he would not lay down. So I said goodnight and left. He didn’t make a peep.
I decided, just for the heck of it, to grab the video monitor and bring in into my bedroom. I wanted to see what he was doing in there and how long he sat up for.
I saw him sitting in the corner, just holding his lovie and looking around for 5 minutes. I went back in his room, rocked him more, put him back in his bed. He rolled over, I left. I watched him get back up and sit up again. He sat there for 10 minutes. I felt so bad. I know he is tired, and I’m so confused as to why he was just sitting there. He wasn’t crying or fussing or talking. Just sucking on his pacifier, playing with his stuffed animal and… sitting there.
Next, I go in and bring Lucas into our room. Of course, that didn’t work. He started talking and crawling on his dad. So…. back in his room for a rock and lay back down in the crib. I put the dog in his room (with the door open) because it was freaking me out.
… Eventually, after a total of 30 minutes of mostly sitting up, he lays down and goes to sleep.
So, here I am thinking, does he do this every night and I just don’t know it? He seriously didn’t make a peep the whole time he was sitting in his bed. Is that why he sleeps in so late, because he is up in the middle of the night and I just don’t know it? In the morning, how long is he sitting there before he calls for me or before I wake up and go to check on him and find out that he is awake?
Poor baby. I feel so bad for him, just sitting there. It obviously doesn’t bother him because otherwise he would cry. Maybe he likes the alone time? I don’t understand it.
I think I’m going to bring the monitor in our room again tonight and see if it happens again. It sort of freaks me out actually.
Is it weird or what?

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

27 thoughts on “Middle of the Night: Lucas Sitting in his Crib

  1. I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's normal for kids to have little nightmares or look like they're awake when they're really asleep. He wasn't crying. He was probably in a “sleep walking” state but sitting down in his crib. My boys have awakened and looked awake but it takes awhile before they actually awaken and go back to sleep. My kids usually do it if they've missed a nap or not had a long enough nap…and they're overtired.
    I think it interrupts their sleep patterns?
    Hope this helps πŸ™‚

  2. I don't think that is too weird. Sometimes kids wake up in the middle of the night and are just awake. I read something somewhere sometime (see how accurate I am!?) and it said that people often sleep in cycles- a deep sleep followed by a brief period of very very light sleep or sometimes being awake and then back to a semi-deep sleep. Maybe Lucas is in that “awake” portion of sleep.

    If he isn't crying or fussing I wouldn't worry too much about it. My daughter is a very light sleeper and there have been times when she wakes up around midnight and will sort of babble to herself and play with her doll or something, then fall back asleep. I used to go in and get her and try to rock her back to sleep but then she just wanted to sleep with us, which was fine for awhile, but not every night. Once I realized that she wasn't upset or needing anything, I stopped picking her up and she would just go back to sleep on her own.

  3. I wouldn't worry about it. It sounds like he's just not ready to lay down right that second so he's just hanging out for bit.

    Since he doesn't seemed bothered then I wouldn't worry too much.

    And like Courtney said, sleep cycles have periods of light sleep. A lot of people wake up during this time and just roll over and go back to sleep or they get up to use the bathroom, get a drink..etc.

    It sounds normal.

  4. I think its wonderful that he can sit there by himself and not need you to comfort him! My daughter does this sometimes, usually doesn't go back to sleep though, its when she is up for the day. I just leave her there until she starts calling for me. He must know he is sleepy and not be just quite ready to go back to sleep.

  5. My son did this also. Like the previous commenters, chances are your son isn't completely awake. When my son first did that, we would try to soothe him but he seemed oblivious to our efforts. If he's not crying, and he has his comfort objects, I wouldn't worry about it.

  6. Jordan has been doing that lately. He'll wake up, maybe turn on his seahorse, or just sit in there and talk to himself. We don't have a monitor and our floors are so squeaky, we can't peek in without him hearing us coming, so we don't go unless he cries. Usually he'll just go back to sleep or he'll throw out the paci and cry for us to give it back to him or he'll just start crying (maybe can't go back to sleep?) and one of us will go in, lay him down and cover him up, give him the paci and turn on the music and he'll go back to sleep.

    I think sometimes they just do it. Not sure why, though.

  7. My oldest son did this as well. Its actually a pretty great thing. Him being able to sit there and quietly play with his stuffed animal, blanket, pacifier, whatever and gently put himself back to sleep, means he can self soothe. He is comfortable and feels safe and knows that he is ok awake and by himself. He probably isn't very awake either (like some of the other ladies said) but half way to sleep.

    Don't feel bad that he does this, its a sign that he feels safe, and in child hood thats HUGE!!

  8. thanks guys! I'm so happy to hear that you all think this is normal! phew! πŸ™‚ I never looked at is as a GOOD thing, but I think what many of you said is right. He feels safe and he can fall back to sleep on his own, yay! πŸ™‚

  9. Have you seen the movie Paranormal Activity?

    I agree with Liz, it's a good thing. He's comfortable and secure and is capable of falling asleep on his own! Awesome!

    Also, a tip that took me 3 kids (and 3 million middle-of-the-night pacifier retrievals) to figure out: Get one of those paci clips and attach one end to the paci and the other end to a stuffed animal. It won't end up on the floor and will be much easier for Lucas to find on his own.

  10. Rachel… No.. what does that have to do with my 13 month old son in his bed??

    Scary, I'm not watching it now! πŸ™‚

    I don't think Lucas wants his pacifier on a string attached to a stuffed animal. Good idea though, but he likes to move around a lot and cuddle with his lovie and I think that would just get in the way.. and could possibly be dangerous?!

  11. Don't let it freak you out. Madelynn lays/sits there with her glow worm on and chews on her blanket early in the morning sometimes at around 5:30 when my husband is getting ready for work. She is still tired and goes back to sleep. She also sits there when she first wakes up and plays by herself quitely before she calls for me. Just like adults babies need alone time too.

  12. Apparently my sibs and I used to do that as babies as well. Lots of babies will wake up after nap or nighttime and just hang out and play by themselves for a bit.

    Sometimes The Pixie will wake up early and want to play for almost an hour before going back to sleep, but she's not very independent, so she requires me to be awake WITH her… =P

  13. Unless you see developmental or other issues like that, don't worry about it. Kids have to get on a circadian rhythm, just like adults, and most adults wake every 3 hours, but we have trained ourselves to sleep again so quickly that we don't even notice!

  14. Awww he's just fine. When my son wakes up he “plays” for like an hour before I even go get him. Sometimes that entails actual playing, other times just sitting quietly with his George and looking around. I will occasionally peek in and see what he's doing. Sounds totally fine and normal, he's just having some personal quiet time =)

  15. i'd look at it as more of a 'good' thing too. and our caitlyn does it a lot. sometimes i feel bad because i don't know how long she's been playing in her bed. but if she's not crying or yelling…she must be happy!! :0)

  16. It is completely normal. My youngest would do the same thing, up until this past weekend when she learned how to climb out of her crib. Now she is awake about 1 1/2 hours earlier than I would have normally gone in to get her. She would never make a fuss until someone came to get her.

    Cherish the moments when he lets you sleep in… believe me!

  17. My James does this sometimes. He's 30 weeks. He usually sleep through the night, but simetimes he'll wake up and just lay there. (He can't sit up on his own yet.) He has an elephant that ties to the crib, and he'll play with that. (That's how I know he's up. It play music if you pull its tail.) He'll only fuss if he can't find his Nuk. (I feel for you on that one.) If I go in his room he gets excited and starts laughing and bouncing around, so I usually just let him put himself back to sleep.

  18. I'm not a Mama just yet but I think you probably nailed it when you said he might like the alone time; we all like a little ME time. πŸ™‚

    That being said it totally would have weirded me out too… something tells me there are many weirded out moments in my future.

  19. I think that's the sweetest thing I've read in a long time! Isn't it strange how our kids can hurt our heart when they're fine? LOL He's too cute!

  20. My son does this too. I think that if he is content and doesn't seem to be in need of a diaper change or food, that he is probably okay. A few weeks ago, we saw my son in the video monitor sitting up–but he was sleeping! He had fallen asleep while sitting up right–now that was creepy!

    -Lori @ I Can Grow People

  21. LOL

    Samantha, in Paranormal Activity, a couple videotapes their bedroom all night as they sleep and the see footage of the girl getting up and just standing beside the bed staring at the guy for, like, 3 hours straight, not moving or anything. It is so creepy, but funny in this context!If you're easily freaked out, don't watch it!

    The paci clip trick has worked for us. The band is too short to be dangerous – it's designed to NOT be a strangulation hazard. Mostly, it's made it so much easier for ME because I'm not on hands and knees searching under a crib in the dark for a lost paci at 2 am!

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