Ditching the Pacifier, Before or After New Baby

The pacifier. When to get rid of it. How to get rid of it. When is the best time? And again.. how?

Originally, my thought was that it would be best to get rid of the pacifier before baby comes. Because, I know that as soon as baby is here- during the transition of having a baby around- that’s not going to be the time to try to rid him of the pacifier. However, I talked with a mom today and she suggested not taking the pacifier away before a major life change- having a new baby around. I’d agree with that.

The last thing I need is for my toddler to not take naps because he doesn’t have his lovie and pacifier with him in bed. The last thing I want is for my toddler to be upset and have nothing to make him feel better when he needs to rest or play quietly.

Basically, in conclusion, I think we’ll keep the pacifier around until Lucas and I decide to get rid of it. It makes my life easier as a mom, and it makes my son sleep well and comfortably.

I’m good with that.

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

15 thoughts on “Ditching the Pacifier, Before or After New Baby

  1. I agree with this decision as well. πŸ™‚ DH and I are expecting our baby in about a month, and our 18-month-old is still very attached to his “bobo” at night and for naps. Fortunately, he doesnt need it/use it during the day (thanks to his day care teachers – they are way stronger than us! πŸ™‚ but, as you said, it brings him so much comfort and peace at home. We are already trying to transition him in little ways, ie, getting him to walk more like a “big boy” instead of being carried, getting him to use his toddler bed instead of the crib (he isnt having that yet!!!) so I think we're going to allow him to continue using the paci throughout the birth of the baby and until he no longer needs it, or he has gotten accustomed to the baby and additional change wont be too disruptive.

    Great post! πŸ™‚

  2. Hi,

    In my opinion I think your right, you shouldn't get rid of it before the baby is born mostly because if you do, he will inevitably want it back because he will see the new baby with one (maybe).

    This means that all the work you had to try to take away from him will be in vain.


  3. I think either way would work! Our youngest was born only 15 months after our twins, and I definitely didn't take the twins' paci away before! I kept putting it off and putting it off, but finally, one of them bit the end off and I said enough. That day (they were almost two), we had a “bye bye paci” ceremony and threw them away. They really did MUCH better than I expected and barely missed them at all. They also seemed to have no problem understanding that the baby still had hers, but they were “big girls” and didn't need theirs. With our youngest, it was even easier… one night her paci fell out of her crib and she went to sleep without it (at about 9 months)… when I realized it the next day, I just never gave it to her again and she was fine! You'll know the right time to do it. I always reminded myself that it would happen at the right time… after all, there are no teenagers still using pacifiers, right?! πŸ™‚

  4. whatever works best for you! My cousin-in-law(is that right?) is 3 1/2 and STILL has a paci. I didn't want my son to be so attached that we couldn't take it away and knew the longer we waited the harder it would be.

    I was also pregnant when i took his paci away..he was about 17-18 months and it went a lot better than I though it would. I took it away during the day at first and there were tears, but we left it in his crib when he got up in the morning. About a month later, I took it out of his crib and told him that he was a big boy now and didn't need a paci-there was really no fussing!

  5. I am expecting Baby #3 this Oct and I was wondering about the same thing my son is 15 months old and with my 1st son I got rid of the pacifier at 18 months. Thanks you for this post. I think I will wait now too!!

  6. My daughter is 6.5 months old and we just took the pacifier away from her last Friday. She was really only needing it for naps and bedtime but we would give it to her when she was really fussy also. She started waking up 2 weeks ago multiple times a night wanting her paci and that is what made us decide that it was time to try to wean it from her. That first night was hard, she cried for 27 minutes and we used the Ferber method for crying it out. But then the next day she did great with naps and bedtime. Last night I put her down and she didn't cry at all. It has only been 4 nights and she acts as if she has forgotten what the paci was!

    That being said, I know every child is different. Plus with the new baby coming, it might not be the best time to do this. I just wanted to share my experience with you in hopes that it might help in some way. You can read about my experience here:

    Good Luck!

  7. I can't remember where I learned this trick, but it did work. If you poke holes into the pacifier the child won't get the same feeling from it anymore. When we tried this our son said, “broken” and dumped his into the trash. He fussed a few days afterwards, but it wasn't very traumatic.

  8. One of the families I nanny for has gotten rid of their older kids pacis by telling them the “paci fairy” coming. They leave the pacis out by the door, and in the morning, the paci fairy leaves a gift for them in exchange for the pacis.

  9. Whatever works for you is great! There are so many issues to get wrung up about that there is no need to sweat the little ones. πŸ™‚

  10. whatever works for you πŸ™‚ when my oldest we took it away right before he turned 1 (I was already preggo w/ #2) and I ddin't want him using it when he was older. he fussed for a day and was fine. With #2, I took it away at 13 months (b/c I was preggo again w/#3 and they were going to be 16 mnths apart) and again I ddint want to deal w/ her taking her baby sisters paci away and ussing it herself or worse, still using it when she was older. She fussed for a day or 2 and then was fine. For #3, we took it away at around 15 mnths – she fussed for a few days too, but was fine. I always found it was harder on my husband and I then our kids (that was the easy solution whent he kids cried, lol!). And the younger they were, the easier it was πŸ™‚ But every child is different and you know your son the best πŸ™‚ Good luck!

  11. oh yeah – and when each of my new babies were born, the older sibling never once tried to use the baby's paci. My son was 19 mnths old when my daughter was born and my daughter was 16 1/2 mnths old when my 2nd daughter was born. they just kinda knew it was for a baby πŸ™‚

  12. I agree too. Esp with big changes their security will be essential. We as you know are going thru the change of taking it away. I hope it goes alright, night three…crossing fingers.

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