Co – Sleeping: What Works for Me

On Friday I had an “Ask the Moms” question submitted by a reader relating to co sleeping.  Thank you for all your suggestions and replies, many were so helpful and I love hearing from you guys.

It’s really important to me that we are all accepting of each others different parenting styles and beliefs. People do what works for them and that is how it should be. If you don’t agree with me or another commenter on my blog, that is totally fine!  Being respectful of others is #1.

Anyways, I wanted to share with you how I feel about co sleeping and what works for me! I have never talked about it much and several of you have asked what we do, so here it is.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with  sleeping with your kids until they are 2 or 3 or 4 or 5. I don’t think it’s “wrong” or “un -healthy” or “weird.” Is it for me and my family? No. 
Does co-sleeping with my babies work for me? Yes.

I don’t consider myself or my family a “co -sleeping” family by any means. I don’t even know what the technical term for co sleeping is, and I don’t think it matters. Lucas (and most likely my future babies) slept with me in bed or in a bassinet next to my bed for the first 6 months or so. I don’t really think that is called co sleeping, but really, it doesn’t matter. It was easier for me, and I was such a worry wart, that I wanted Lucas sleeping right next to me. As he got older he would start out the night sleeping in his own bed and then once he woke in the early morning he would come in bed with me. This happened for a while and then he eventually went into his crib in his room. 
Now, every once in a while I will get Lucas out from his bed in his room and bring him in bed with me. Sometimes, I just miss him and I looove snuggling with him. And, when he’s asleep, he’s a pretty good snuggler. 🙂 And also, tell me, what is sweeter than a sleeping baby?? 
I loved having Lucas sleep with us when he was a baby and I never worried about rolling over on him or anything like that. I know some do, but I didn’t. It made nursing at night easier and I also think it helped with bonding.  When we go out of town he usually ends up sleeping in bed with us too, because his pack n’ play is uncomfortable ( I imagine) and we’re all in the same room. That is fine with us and we don’t mind at all. He does like to hog the middle of the bed, but I tell daddy to roll over. 🙂 
That is what works for my family.  Feel free to share what works for you! 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

11 thoughts on “Co – Sleeping: What Works for Me

  1. I am pretty sure technically co-sleeping is when you have a bassinet or crib in the same room with you.

    The “family bed” or “bed sharing” is when you bring baby in the bed with you (I've done a little of all with my four, and with the youngest two we did the family bed and are still doing that with Ivy- almost 2.) I do whatever gets me & child the most sleep! 🙂


  2. we did bed sharing with Brighton pretty much since birth. it is what felt right to me. He started putting him in his crib at abot 10 months and he had no trouble transitioning. We recently put him in a “big boy” bed and he's doing fine in there too. he is an extremely independent child but still loves to cuddle with his mom and dad.
    Parenting is about doing what is right for your family. Only you know how your family works best.
    thanks for the post!

  3. With my son he wanted his own space so we didn't do too much of the co-sleeping. Elliot has been completely different. For 5 weeks she would only sleep on my chest and at 9 months she has only slept through the night a handful of times. She has a bed in our room and nurses to sleep every night. After about 10pm if she wakes up she just stays in bed and nurses off and on all night. This for me is much easier to do than get up every single time she wants to eat since she is still reverse cycling quite a bit. I work full time and I have to do what ever gets us the most sleep and having her close does the trick.

  4. So I was the Mamma that asked the question and wanted to say that this is only a recent development of my son ending up in our bed. After several weeks of getting up numerous times a night I was so exhasted that it was just easier to bring him in our room or let him fall asleep. For whatever reason he sleeps better with us at this point in his life and I am ok with it.

    One of the main reason I asked the question is I wanted to make sure I wasnt the only mom moving my child or going to the couch to have sex. 🙂 I always enjoy Samanthas readers comments and suggestions and figured u all would have some great input… So thank you!

  5. Our first son slept in our bed a total of 2 times. Both of them were during naps and I slept on my back with blankets wrapped around me so I wouldn't roll on him. There's actually a picture of it and I laugh so hard seeing it now! The rest of the time he slept in his crib in our room because we only had a 1 bedroom place. At 6 months we moved to a bedroom place so he started sleeping in his own room.

    When baby #2 came around I realized that having him in bed with us was very natural. I still worried and didn't get the best night sleep when he was in my arms but when he was in my husbands I did. We had a basinet/play pen beside our bed and he would usually start the night off there then end up in our bed. Once he started consistently sleeping through the night around 7 months we moved him into the room with his brother.

    Baby #3 is on the way and we'll be doing the same thing as with #2. I've discovered through being a parent that it's important to listen to your instincts and what feels right to you and your partner.

  6. Co-sleeping/bed sharing works for us. We did I with our oldest, now 7 and our youngest, almost 1. We're expecting #3 in a couple days now and its natural for us to keep the little ones close.

    Our oldest naturally moved out of the bed, to nearby the bed, to his own room by the time he was 3/4 ish from what I remember. Our littlest sleeps in her area or will climb in bed if she wants snuggles. Its allowed us much needed sleep and makes bedtimes, bonding time 🙂

  7. our little one is 16 months and he sleeps with us…
    he starts off in his bed, but ends with us…
    It started as me needing him near (his daddy was deployed and I needed that closeness) now, is is just a habit for all involved…

  8. I guess we sort of do you what guys did. My daughter slept with us until she was 5 months and then went into her own room.

    I really appreciate you being so supportive of everyone's different views on co sleeping and other things.

  9. My first baby slept in her bassinet beside our bed until she was 8 months (she was a preemie). When we moved her into her own bed she started waking up every 1-2 hours (her crib was in our room), then finally after 6 months of this (and another child), we had to put her in her own room (both babies would wake each other up at night). The second started out in his crib (I was afraid the switch would mess him up like it did her), he slept through the night from 4 months on. Then when he was sleeping through the night we moved 2nd into the room with the 1st, and they were fine with it.

    Both of my kids refused to sleep with us. They would cry and fuss and move around, want to play, talk, etc. It was like they didn't understand how to sleep in our bed?? And the more we tried to soothe, rock, cuddle them, the more upset and louder they would get. It was almost as if they needed to be put in bed and for us to just walk away (I know it sounds crazy)…

  10. Anonymous, I don't think that sounds crazy at all I totally know what you mean!! If I bring Lucas to bed with me know he starts laughing and talking and calling the dog. Ha! Sometimes I wish he would fall asleep with me but he does better in his own bed now that he's older.

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