The Last Hurrah

Sometime within the next three weeks (hopefully very soon!!) I’m going to be a new mom again. I’m going to have a newborn and a 20 month old toddler.

(I have no idea what I’m doing.)

(I’ll figure it out though. No problemo.)

These are the last days I have of “just” Lucas and I.  I don’t know how much my life is going to change, if it will change much, if I will adjust easily or not, if the new baby will be an “easy” one or not. This is sort of a weird feeling! I feel like I should be doing something…

It’s sort of like when you go from having no kids to having one. A lot changes in that short time. The days before your first is born you might spend your last days alone going out for dinner, getting your hair cut or just sleeping all day.  Or when you go from being single to married and you have a Bachelorette party to celebrate. (Okay, I guess that’s a little different.)

Am I suppose to be throwing a Lucas and Mama party with ice cream and impromptu self photography?

Would you spend nap time relaxing on the couch watching movies or reading a book and catching up on sleep? Or would you spend nap time cleaning, organizing and working on long lost projects?

Would you stay up late at night to savor every last minute of “baby free” zone or would you go to sleep early?

Would you go out and do fun and exciting activities with your toddler or would you stay home and do simple things?

I’m just wondering…. if I look back in the months to come….

What would you do? 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

19 thoughts on “The Last Hurrah

  1. I just had my second and I felt the same way before she was born. My oldest was 22 months when I had his sister. In those last weeks, we took a lot of trips out of the house, since I knew that I wouldn't be able to do that anymore (at least not as much in the beginning). I got on the floor and played more. I just tried to do as many things as I could think of that I knew that he loved to do, just mommy, daddy, and Anderson! :o) Good luck!

  2. If it was me, I would throw in the towel on cleaning, organizing, and such. I would spend time cuddling, reading, going to the park, etc. Because even with a good baby you will have to start saying “no” and “not right now” a lot more often. It will, or always has here, made the adjustment much easier!

  3. I was in your shoes 2 months ago. Pregnant with a 19 month old. I worked until 40 weeks, and had the baby at 41, so I really only had a week to enjoy. We did lots of outings! I enjoyed my last days, just the two of us. I saved the house projects for maternity leave. My older child takes a 3 to 4 hour nap every day, so I have been busy with my projects then. Now, on my last week of leave, we are doing it all again….finishing the last projects during nap time and enjoying the time with my boys the rest of the time. Lots of trips to the park, aquarium, zoo, etc.

  4. I'm not sure what I'll do! Come early April, I will be home with a 22 month old and a newborn (so it's especially nice to be able to read about your journey as I'm just a few months behind you).

    I was fairly uncomfortable with Pixie at the end (okay, and the preceeding 8 months), so I imagine we'll be home a lot and try to spend some time outside when the weather cooperates. We'll probably even be able to make little snow castles around then!

  5. I have a 4 year old, 9 month old and am 5 months pregnant with our 3rd. When I went from 1 to 2 I had to let a lot of things go…laundry, cleaning, etc. After the first couple months it got easier. You'll do fine!! Excited to see pics of the new baby!

  6. I think you are thinking about it too much. 🙂 Just relax and enjoy the time with you little man and get sleep when (and if) you can. Going from 1 to 2 is much easier than 0 to 1. 🙂 (And I say that as a mom who had a 1 1/2 year old when the second one came too.) I know I thought about it a lot also, you go from scared to excited to nervous… but you will do just fine! Enjoy the last couple weeks! 🙂

  7. I would get out as much as possible, because you will probably hibernate this winter with the new baby…and it is alot harder once there is 2. That was my only regret before I had my second one, was getting out more often.

  8. I can speak from experience, I relished the time with my first born, and slept as much as possible, and ate as much ice cream as possible. Sleep my friend, sleep!

  9. Going from 1 to 2 is so much easier than going from 0 to 1! But it is still different. I'd say enjoy the baby you have now, squeeze in a few extra cuddles, and maybe take a few minutes for yourself, too.

  10. if i had to do it again (my kids are exactly the same difference and yours will be… 20 months) i would have a week of mommy and me activities. zoo, park, photo ops. anything. enjoy it. one day chock full of stuff, the next just relaxin'.

  11. I've been there (twice) – with my first, I kinda savored the last just him and I time before his brother was born. I was looking forward to the just me and my boy time with my second before my third was born (his brother at school now) but my third came early and I didn't have the pre-baby maternity leave time I was expecting. Just enjoy the time you have the way that is best for you.

  12. For me it was a two-week adjustment period to two babies. The first week I had help, the second week I did it all on my own (SAHM).

    I wish I had slept more in my final weeks before the birth of baby #2. Oh, and appreciated how easy it is to run errands with only one.

  13. My experience after 2nd baby………..
    -I found it way harder going from 1 to 2, rather than 0 to 1 (everyone's experiences are different though).
    -My oldest was 11 months old and I felt guilty all the time because I didn't think she got enough of my time, and because I had a premature newborn, I was running back and forth to the hospital for the first 2 weeks.
    -My 1st child became “clingy” after #2 and wanted me all the time. I constantly felt torn between the two of them.
    -I had to carry both of them, my first was not yet steady enough on her feet to walk anywhere. The double-stroller was the only way I could go anywhere alone. lol
    -I learned to grab the one that needed me the most, first, then take care of the next one (or sometimes at the same time:)
    -I also experienced postpartum depression after the 2nd one (not after the first).
    -After #1, I took pics of her everyday, mailed cards to family and friends, made scrapbooks, etc. My poor 2nd baby doesn't even have a scrapbook, I could never find the time to finish it.
    *I know you will be fine. As good as you are with Lucas, no matter what the new baby brings you will handle it with ease.
    *So, I say relax and catch up on as much sleep as you can. Or at least spend quiet time at home with Lucas. You can have outings later, lol.

  14. I had all of those feelings when I went from one to two. To be honest, though, my second child fit in perfectly from day one. We quickly adjusted and all those feelings I had went away. The day before I had her, I made the day all about my son. We spend the entire day together doing special activities!

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