Too Early for Tantrums

Oh my word. Can someone tell me WHAT is going on with the temper tantrums??!

Seriously. In the last few days Lucas has started them. Hard core.

On Friday when we left the gym day care he threw a fit when I wouldn’t let him take the red ball with him. THREW A FIT. He was screaming and kicking and I was totally that mom carrying my screaming child to the car. Because he just had to have that ball and, obviously, doesn’t understand that he can play with it next time we come back.

Then this morning.

Oh Sunday morning.

He was hysterical that I wouldn’t let him take a book into the shower.


Is this just the beginning?

It’s frustrating because he can’t talk yet, so I don’t understand what he is saying or what he wants. This brings the whining up a notch.

Oh the whining. AH. It drives me crazy.

Happy Sunday beautiful unicorns and butterflies and fluffy pretty things!

{I need to listen to some India Arie.}

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

12 thoughts on “Too Early for Tantrums

  1. I hate to say it, but in my experience this was just the beginning. After my 2nd baby came, my 1st stayed frustrated all.the.time.

    Now that they are 3 and 4, it is a little better (they still have melt downs and tantrums though, just fewer and farther between). But, in some aspects it is worse now because they constantly compete and fight over everything:(

  2. Yes, unfortunately it is just the beginning. I have to say however, that talking doesn't really make it easier. My Lucas back talks so much a yells “I DON'T WANT TO!” in addition to his tantrums. I'm sure that there is a lot of jealousy going on and that he mimicks his baby brother. Most likely he sees you and daddy rush to him each time he cries, so maybe you can try and talk to him about Big Boys vs. Babies. Good luck!

  3. Just.the.beginning. When they can talk, you can understand them, but the whining is just as bad. My oldest is going to be 3 in 3 months and will throw a balls to the wall, rolling on the floor and screaming at the top of her lungs tantrum for the dumbest reasons. I also get doors slammed in my face rather consistently. I do not tolerate those kinds of shenanigans though, so I take her little toy box away, or if it is later I will put her to bed early.

  4. well, I am at least happy to hear from you guys that at least what Lucas is doing is “normal.” Makes me feel a little better! You should have seen him at the store earlier. ohmygosh!!!

  5. My boy started with his tantrums when my husband went back to work, I now have a screaming kicking kid when I go to the mall or if I try to do anything that doesn't involve him directly. He also has this thing where he tugs on my pants or shirt if I ignore the fit. I am due in 8 weeks…more is sure to come. It helps A TON to set up play dates with kids his age.

  6. Issue 2 of our magazine page 38 is an article by Bill Corbett … all about the proper use of time out, and beginning to incorporate some of his techniques now may help. It takes time, patience and understanding but in the long run will save much time, patience and understanding and your family relationships will benefit. Also in Issue 5 Laura Berg's article on page 130 is about signing with your baby. We did this in a day care where i worked in the infant room… really made a difference in helping the toddlers to communicate with us.
    I see down your road since at some point I was there since i now have 4 adult daughters calling me mom… so setting up consistent structure and boundaries now will make the rest of your parenting that much easier…
    As I sit here in the land of beautiful unicorns and butterflies and fluffy pretty things I am enjoying this quiet peaceful Sabbath day 🙂
    You are AWESOME Samantha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  7. Totally normal. When I had reached my limit with toddler tantrums, someone suggested reading “Love and Logic: the early years” It really helped me to change my attitude and that has helped reduce the number of tantrums. It's hard, but totally worth it in the long run. It is definitely worth reading in my opinion.

  8. I remember posting on facebook when my daughter was 16 months old or something, “Why didn't anyone tell me about the terrible ones!?!” They come and go now that she is 26 months.

  9. Ugh. Same here- my son is 19 mnths and throwing fits- hitting us, kicking, screaming NOOOOOOOOOOOOO. He lays down on the floor and won't move. So, ya, I'm there with you!

  10. Some good advice here 🙂 It is just the beginning but consistancy is the key (but it is the hardest thing I find! a lot easy said!!). Also, time-outs can work effectively, but some types of discipline don't work for all kids. It's like the cartoon I once saw, 'think of your favorite thing, none of that!' lol. I also find that I have to switch up different discipline methods when things aren't working (like after several months). Another thing, don't be embarressed to be 'THAT' mom, carrying her child out.. 99% of us parents have been there, and some times there is nothing else that will work in situations like that. Biggest mistake in dealing with tantrums is giving in to their demands – it just reinforces their bad behavior!! Enjoy the happy times and give him special mom time and attention everyday as I'm sure you do!

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