I’m not sure what to do about Lucas’ nap situation or if I should even do anything at all.
Months ago (like summer time) he would nap between 12-12:30. I slowly moved that time to 1:00 – sometimes even 1:30- because when I put him to sleep it always took him a while to actually start sleeping. So now I put him down for nap around 1 and he usually sleeps two hours. The thing is, there are several days that he doesn’t actually fall asleep for a while.
I’m completely fine with him having quite time if he chooses not to nap. I will encourage (force) quite time/nap time every afternoon for as long as I’m able. He seems to like his alone time anyways, and if wants to hang out and read his books and talk to himself, than that’s fine by me.
As I’m writing this it’s almost 3pm and he has been up there for two hours. He has been playing and whining occasionally but hasn’t fallen asleep yet. I have gone up there three separate times to rock him in hopes that it will make him tired. I’m about to get him any minute because I figure at this point it’s a lost cause. Now if and when he does fall asleep (let’s say at 3 or 3:30) he will sleep until 4:30 or 5 if we let him! Of course I can’t let him sleep that long because then he won’t go to bed at 7! Then I feel bad waking him up, but I do usually wake him up by 4:30 at the latest so he’ll go to bed at a decent hour.
I think we are going to move his bedtime to 7:30 because this has been happening a lot lately.
Last night he had a normal day and nap routine and he went to bed at 7:15. He played in his bed and seemed to doze on and off until finally falling asleep at 9:00. At about 8:30 I went in his room and rocked him for a while. He was starting to fall asleep on my chest and then all of a sudden started laughing and wanting to play with me. I told him it was night time and put him back in his crib and he started bouncing up and down and laughing. I left and he fell asleep three minutes later.
It’s 3:02, I just looked in the monitor and he’s fast asleep. See my delima here? Now I’m going to have to wake him up at 4 or 4:30 if I want him to go to bed tonight!
Thoughts? I feel bad sometimes that he is up in his room alone for so long some days. He never cries or anything, but I still feel guilty about it. But on the other hand, nap time is nap time and I’m not letting you skip it!
I should also mention that on days when we get out of the house and do something active he seems to take a better nap and fall asleep faster. But this morning we played outside for an hour… and he didn’t fall asleep ’till 3.
Moving his bedtime to 8 or 9 is not really an option for me. His bedtime has always been 7 and we have loved that. It’s so nice to have several hours in the evening to yourself before going to bed. I realize as he gets older we will move it closer to 8 or 8:30, but right now I want to do everything I can to keep it early!