Well Baby Visits

My Joshua is a whopping 17 pounds. He is in the 95% for height and weight.

How do my babies get big so fast??? Gah!

We had the boys “check ups” today and my husband and I decided we’re not doing any more of them. Like, I get that it’s a good idea to make sure babies have healthy hearts and everything, and obviously that is really important and if anything is wrong we would want and need to know right away. But, I also think a big part of it is so that we will come in and pay money.

At the doctors today, they weighed both of the boys, listened to their hearts, checked their ears, eyes and mouth and asked me where my children were sleeping, what kind of cup he was drinking out of, how much milk they drank and other various random question.

I am not complaining. I am very grateful for fabulous nurses and doctors who take care of our kids and I am very thankful for my healthy babies.

But sometimes I don’t see the point in these “well baby” visits. If something feels/looks/seems wrong with my child, I will take him in. Obviously. We also go in for vax shot as well. We’re lucky in that we have never been to the doctor because either one of our kids were sick, but if we did go, I know they would also do the standard things like listening to their heart and check ears.

I’ll probably change my mind at some point down the parenting road, but I can tell you that I won’t be taking Lucas again in six months and Joshua won’t go to his six month check up either. Please don’t call me a bad mom. We’ll go in around that time anyways for shot visits, but not standard procedures.

Oh, and well baby visits are not free for us. I wish they were! Our insurance covers a good portion of it, but we still have to pay a chunk out of pocket. If it didn’t cost us anything, I think I would obviously feel differently and go to them all, no matter what.

I know, I’m always breaking the rules.

Anyways, all I really wanted to do here today was show you a picture of my youngest babe and tell you that he weighs 17 pounds. Oh and Lucas weighs 30.


Do you go to all the “well baby” doctor visits with your kids? (2 weeks, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months, 1 year, 18 months, 2 years, 30 months, etc….) If you don’t – why not?? If you DO- have you ever thought about skipping them? Have you ever asked yourself, what is the point? 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

26 thoughts on “Well Baby Visits

  1. I have gone to every one with my 2 year old daughter. I think they are important because I think we should focus more on well care (like most European countries) rather than sick care. I might feel differently if I didn't have good insurance and had to pay a huge amount of money out of pocket, but as it is, our insurance is pretty good and we don't have to pay anything out of pocket for preventative visits (this is how it should be!). My daughter is to the point where she'll only go once a year anyway. Of course, it'll start all over in June when the new baby arrives.

  2. i agree with tamara. BUT before i go on, i have to say–i do NOT judge you, or any other parent, who decides not to go to these appointments. for me, i feel like i dont know for sure if what my child is doing is developmentally appropriate. yeah, i have a degree in early childhood education from birth to age 3 but i am not educated in health things. i think i would feel bad if, for instance, my son was not turning towards my voice and i thought it was ok but it turned out he had a plugged ear and it affected his speech down the road (as one example). BUT i also agree with you, samantha, that we as parents have a good sense of what's right and what's not, but we've been conditioned to not listen to our hearts and heads when it comes to our children. i think parenting would be a lot less stressful if we were just left alone and allowed to co-sleep, breastfeed, rock our babies to sleep at 10 months, or whatever, instead of being made to feel like our choices in some of these areas are WRONG. 🙂 BTW–Joshua is ALMOST the CUTEST, most ADORABLE baby boy i've ever seen…..second only to my son, of course!!! lol!

  3. 30 months? never heard of it. They go until 2 and then at 3, then 4, etc. As I said though, our well babies (and yearly check ups, pretty sure) are covered (except MAYBE a copay).

  4. AWESOME post!! I just started to consider skipping them after I had my younger son's 9 month checkup last week….that was 1 hour of my life that I'll never get back…a $15 co-pay and a bunch of head nodding to the doctor…(all lies!!! lol…we do baby led weaning and co-sleeping…and no bottles, ever…so i fibbed a little so that i didn't have to explain myself….)sighhhh….lol…and i'm definitely delaying the next round of shots, so I'll be waiting a while… Why do I need my pediatrician to tell me that my son is right on track…I know that! 🙂 and he's perfect, too…lol

    p.s. CUTE kids…my son was like “who's that baby?!”

  5. We went monthly for the first six months, then every six months until 2, then yearly. I didn't feel it was necessary to spend time and money on routine appointments just to hear their weight and get asked a million questions about their diets. The boys were obviously flourishing, healthy and they were right on target for milestones.

  6. I have yet to miss a visit with either of my 2 kids – oldest was 5 in January and the youngest will be 2 next week. I have been a little late due to scheduling issues. I really like our doctor and she has views just like mine. My kids got shots at all of their well visits from 2 months to 18 months, so it was just easier to stay on schedule. After that we just go the standard once a year. I also like to see how much they weigh :). I have really good insurance and do not pay anything for well visits or shots, so that is probably why I have never considered missing one. As a parent, you need to do what makes you feel comfortable. I give you props :).

  7. We haven't done a well check since our daughter was a year (she is now 3 1/2). We don't vax after she had a really bad reaction to MMRV, and they are pointless to me. She is a really tiny kid (at 3 1/2 she just broke 28 lbs) and they always try to talk me into giving her more fatty foods even though her dad and I are both short and slim, so she isn't going to be a big kid.

    I just got fed up with going and nodding my head and then throwing everything out the door as soon as I left. And since we don't vax, there really isn't a point for us.

  8. I used to do them with my oldest. With my second I decided I was not getting ANYTHING out of these visits. Best thing I have ever done. I save money and time and have less stress in my life because of it. We spend enough time at the Dr's office for ear infections, and other lovely infections. Of course if I was ever concerned I would take them….my kids are pretty fast developmentally, physically anyway. My youngest crawled at 4 months and walked at 8 months. When she went to the Dr. at 4 months old he did not believe that she was crawling I had to put her down and show him. She could even go from crawling to sitting. I think he was freaked out 🙂 That is when I decided I didn't really care what he told me anyhow.

  9. What a cute boy! Yes, we go to them all, but other than the office visit fee ($15), which we would have to pay even if we were just getting shots, that is all we have to pay. I think one reason that they do the checkup before the shots is because there are many they wont do if kids are sick. Maybe that is why they always do them at the well baby visits. I am sure that I would think differently though if I had to pay out of pocket for each visit.

  10. I did them all until 4 months, then decided it was pointless since I NEVER had any questions for the doc and we don't vaccinate. Then I took her to the 12m one, for fun and realized why I decided never to go – what a waste of time! I can weigh and measure her on my own and track it on a growth chart. Plus DD is absolutely traumatized by even being sat on the scale, much less being pinned down to look in her ears… no thanks 🙂 and we're military so we get to go for free. I do think the earlier well-baby check ups are more important though and would probably do those again next time…

  11. We have done them, because they are also his shot appointments. We've never had a “well baby” that wasn't also a shot appt….but that could be because we are on an adjusted shot schedule.

    Also, Luke has lots of “issues” and has needed physical therpay, occupational therapy, and now “medical food therapy”. So, unfortunately we're even forced to do “weight check” appointments. 😦

  12. We skipped most well-baby visits, since I decided to delay most childhood vaccines till after 2. The new baby will be getting the immediate post-birth check-up (at home!), then after that we'll play it by ear and only go in if something seems wrong. I have a wonderful holistic doctor I take my son to, and he's great at corresponding over email and allowing us to do what feels best. I personally haven't seen a normal doctor (non-OB/GYN) in about 6 years – I know I'm healthy. So unless I have concerns, no sense in wasting money or time to have someone tell me something I already know.

  13. Our insurance now doesn't cover office visits do we don't do the “well checks” my children get their shots at the health department and we only go the doctor for illnesses. This hasn't even been needed for over 2 years.

    I did go to most of them with my first two and my third had chronic ear infections (weird for exclusivly breast-fed baby)so he was there all the time. But my fourth and fifth babies have been super healthy and with so much out of pocket we have opted to skip them .

  14. Our oldest went to them until he was 6 months old and we moved to an area where they didn't do them. We've just moved back to a larger city and all my children will be going for their check ups.

    I view preventive care as very important. A child can look fine but may have a hidden or underlying problem (just like an adult can have high blood pressure and never know it). When the doctor looks at a sick child they are not doing a thorough check- usually they just look at what they need to in order to assess the current problem.

    Jessica- if you feel the need to lie to your doctor then it's time to get another one. There are many wonderful doctors who are supportive of 'alternative' parenting so find one who you feel can be a positive in your family's life.
    Do you go for yearly physicals or pap smears? I see it as the same thing- preventive car has been proven to save money in the long run and save lives. If you're not happy with how it went make sure to get your money's worth and take a list of questions you want answered.

  15. This was very interesting to read Samantha! Your take and all the comments…
    We once my kids hit one we only go once a year. I haven't found a doc that our insurance covers that doesn't hassle me about shots so I'm not as excited about going. Though I think I FINALLY have gotten through to our newest doc (we moved three years ago) that it's not worth arguing the shot thing with me and she doesn't press the issue as much anymore. Our 3rd is due this summer and I plan to go to all the appointments – but our insurance covers them so it's not a big deal.

    My babies grew so fast too – my daughter was 20 pounds at 4 months! Your kids are adorable!!!!

  16. nope. Our insurance doesn't pay for them at all and I think they are completely pointless for good moms that already know how to care for their child. And I never ask or take parenting advice from my doctor, just medical!

  17. Our insurance covers 100% of well baby visits. I think it's funny they cover the “unnecessary” appointments but we have to pay for when they're sick. Weird.
    But, we are always getting a vax at a visit so I've never missed one. We do 2,4,6,9,12 month then yearly after that.

  18. I hope I didn't come off as judgemental, I really didn't mean to be. I truly beleive that raising kids is personal and every parent has to do what is right for their own family, situation, kids, beliefs and everything else!

  19. I wrote something similar on my blog this week, basically I only go to the appt for shots and IF I FEEL something is wrong. Otherwise I don't take either of my kids for 'standard procedure' they also weigh and check them over when you get shots so I really don't see the need BUT thats the way I PARENT my own children nothing against others who do it differently.

    I found most well baby visits was a whole lot of condecending run of the mill advice and like I was at school 'oh she's still having milk to go to bed' 'naughty girl'…don't get me started erugh.

  20. Well baby visits don't neccessarily mean they will catch things that are wrong, too. My son has dyspraxia and was really slow at reaching his motor milestones. I live in Canada, where we don't pay anything at all for a well baby visit. I went to every one, I mentioned my questions to the doctor, and they didn't catch it. Kevin also had some issues when we switched from formula to cow's milk, and they didn't really catch that either. Turns out he's lactose intolerant.

    It wasn't until he was 11 that finally we figured everything out, and it wasn't because of a doctor, either.

  21. Funny, it seems like with my daughter (almost 3) she had shots every time she went, so there really were no well-baby visits. But generally we don't go unless we know something is being done. My daughter has been really healthy thankfully. 🙂

  22. I was wondering about these as well. We are paying out of pocket for our visits and our dr. has us coming in monthly. My five month old is doing great, but I am feeling a bit taken advantage of. We will take him in for his shots, but I am thinking of skipping the 5 month appointment that most doctors don't seem to require.

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