Proof: Having Kids Ages Us

Alternately titled: Does Having Kids Age Us? It was a question. But, after further (scientific and political, of course) research into writing this post, I have come to the conclusion that, maybe, yes, having kids does age us. 
Not cool, kids. I even stay out of the sun! 
So, I’m kind of depressed. In a bummerdude sort of way. 
I was looking through old pictures on my laptop, trying to find some new ones to put on my wall gallery, and I came across some old ones of me when I was….. I don’t know…… younger. For some reason, that is the first word that comes to my mind when I see my “pre children” self. 
Case in point with these pictures: 
I was 19 in this picture, I think. Two boobs, the same size. A little perky too. That is awesome. My husband will hate me for saying this, but he had a lot more hair then too. Ha. Sorry babe. 
I think I was 21 here. My hair was MUCH blonder that it is now. Why is my hair turning brown? I will win this battle, gosh darnit. 
And, THIS is the picture that started all of these thoughts. Lucas was 5 months old here, so that was about 2 years ago. I think I look so much different now, it is sort of depressing! 

Here I am today. With my two most precious babies in my arms who I would age 50 years for. Now, I’m staring at myself trying to figure out where I look older. 
What made me look younger?  I mean, obviously there is TIME. I simply was younger.  My face might be thinner, maybe my hair is blonder, (is THAT the secret? I have been neglecting $$$$$ the highlights lately.) is it my teeth, or smile or ?? I think my eyebrows were thicker then. I have been waxing them a little more, I thought it was what grown ups did. 
I didn’t think that having kids could really age us. I asked my husband about it, and his response was, “of course it does!” I probably have – okay I do– have a little left over “baby” (how long are we allowed to use this term? Just wondering) weight hanging on, (eh, not really weight, just skin that stretches when you get pregnant and eat too much ice cream.)  and I guess my hair isn’t as blonde, and I probably have a few more moles on my face/body, but I am still young, as are my boys, and I still feel young. 
Ah, picture chaos. Don’t you love it? 
I guess there are a few things that kids do that might lead to “aging” us. 
We don’t spend as much time relaxing and pampering ourselves. 
We don’t sleep as much. Even though I get 7-9 hours of sleep a night, it is broken up into 3 hour (or less- sometimes more) segments. Maybe a solid stretch of uninterrupted sleep for 8 or 9 hours IS that important! Does that have a toll on how we look and how we age? 
{Yes, my 7 1/2 month old still doesn’t sleep through the night. It’s fine.}
Are kids stressful? I know having added stress can make you age faster. 
I don’t feel like they are stressful, but maybe they are to an extent. Worrying…… does that age us? 
I don’t feel old, and I know that’s the most important. 
I need to stop talking and putting pictures of myself on the internet. 
Do you feel like having kids has aged YOU? In what areas of your life? What do you do to FEEL young? Okay, tell us your secret too, what do you do to LOOK young? 

(I’m sorry if this post sounded really conceded. I promise I’m not always this into how my face looks.) 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

7 thoughts on “Proof: Having Kids Ages Us

  1. I think you pretty much covered it.

    The only thing I would add, is that having kids adds a level of responsibility to us that even young-married people don't have. And that change in mind set, putting someone else's needs entirely before your own, has a very 'aging' effect even if there is nothing VISIBLE about it. You know? I FEEL more “grown up” because I have kids, than my friends from HS who are older than me but still living the single life. (I'm almost 28.)

  2. I think the aire of excitement/new freedom/the world is at our hands dims a bit and that is the difference. I think a lot more about my decisions now than I did before I had children.

  3. I'm 25. (Okay, I lied. I WILL be 25 this month though… LoL!) Sometimes I feel like I'm 35. Being a mom has definitely caused me to put on my responsibility hat and keep it on. It's no longer just about my husband and I. And sometimes I feel “old” because that's what “older” people usually do, they can't just think about themselves.

    But then I think about how I was at say, 19, and I'm so glad that my daughter doesn't have my 19 year old self as her mother. Instead, she get's the better, more mature, person that I've come to be. And that makes me happy. All in all, yes I feel older, but I like it!

  4. I think I look way different! It doesn't help that I was a college runner before and in really good shape and now I am a recreational runner pushing a running stroller. My hair is way darker too! One day I looked at it in a picture and realized that I no longer have blond hair! I was sad for a little while, but not sad enough to pay to have it fixed. Luckily, I am so busy now days that some days I hardly notice how different I look.

  5. You so can't compare when you have a baby and aren't getting sleep. Sleep is what does it I think… I mean I didn't get any sleep while I was pregnant and then at least the first year of babydom is sleepless. That's two years without normal sleep. How can we possibly look good? lol

    I look in the mirror and see the same thing… eyes tired, don't have time to keep things up, just looking older. It's okay though, our kids are so worth it! 🙂

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