What would you do if you had a friend or aquantiance who had their kids in car seats that were clearly unsafe? I’m not sure what to do…
I have a friend – a newer friend- that has two kids; a newborn and a kid Lucas’s age. I happened to see them in the car before she got them out (and right after she had stopped and walked around to get them) and I was shocked. The newborn (like, weeks old newborn) was in a infant seat but the straps were super loose. Like, extremely loose, to the point where I don’t even know if it was doing anything. If she were to slam on the breaks at all, going 40,50, 60 MPH, that baby would not stay in the car seat.
The toddler, age three, was in a booster seat, using a normal/adult seatbelt going across his front — or maybe it wasn’t even on his front? I didn’t see if he had it over his chest or behind him, but I know for sure he didn’t have any other straps/buckles being used, it was just the shoulder/waist strap.
SO. I immediately cringed at this. I am not judging her, I am legitimately concerned for her child’s safety.
Is it my place to say anything??
I feel like, if my kids were in any danger, I would want someone to tell me. Maybe she truly doesn’t know that you need baby straps to be tighter??
I’m not super close with her, so I was thinking what I should do. Maybe I could even drop off a “car seat safety” brochure or something on her doorstep? Or would that just be ridiculous and make her feel awful? I don’t know! Is it my place to say anything or should I stay out of it? I don’t want to be rude, of course, and maybe I don’t even know what I’m talking about and I’m totally wrong. I just can’t stop thinking about these kids in the car seats and praying that mama doesn’t get in a car crash!
What would you do?