Moms Matter Too

I am the (part) stay-at-home-mom of two little kids (ages 3 & 5) during the day and I work part time in the evenings. So, I am with my children from the time they wake up until when I leave for work around 5pm, 4-5 days of the week. (My husband is home most weekends and most days in the summer, if that matters in the context of this post.) This essentially means that I am in charge of our days. I decide what we do, what we eat and when we eat, what activities the kids do, what activities I do, what chores we do during the day…. every little thing. Of course I decide, I’m the adult, right?


Gosh, I don’t know what it is. It drives me crazy that I still do this to myself…

I don’t make enough time for myself. 

I plan out things to make sure my kids are happy. 
I make them foods that are yummy and healthy. 
I make sure they get outside for fresh air and exercise. 
They get to play and read for pleasure and see friends and engage their mind. 
They get to relax, rest and read books. 

… and then there is me. The mom.

Since when did I just become “their mom?!” Yes I absolutely love being with them every (most) days and taking care of them and wouldn’t trade any of that for the world.  But, I also feel like I am more than just “a mom.” We can’t let ourselves lose our only identity in the midst of raising humans. I am a person. A women. I have my own goals and plans and dreams and things I want to do with my life. One could argue that a time such as will come after the stay-at-home-mom phase is over, and I agree, but digress…

I deserve to make sure my days are happy.
Filled with yummy and healthy food.
Fresh air and exercise.
An engaging activity.
A chance to read or write for pleasure.

Why am I putting myself last?? 

As I am thinking about this and trying to make sense of it and figure out why I don’t put them in the gym day care more or why I don’t let them watch a show more often so I can do a 30 minute workout at home or cook a healthy meal, I realize that I don’t really know why…. I advocate and encourage other moms like me to make time for themselves. I find myself getting envious of other moms who seem to be better about making the time for themselves and don’t show guilt for the moments they prepare for themselves only.   I realize that if I’m healthy and happy it will make me a better person and mom. I realize that I NEED to be healthy so I can be around for a long time with my kids!

My children need to know that they are a priority in my lives.

and so I am. and so are you. 

So today. Today I am making progress {in this area} 😉 by giving us all a little “quite time.”  GUILT FREE. Yep. No guilt here. This morning we all ate a healthy breakfast. I took the kids to gymnastics and they go to play and run around for two hours. We came home and after some lunch and quiet play, they are in their rooms doing their own thing. Me? Silence and keyboard, baby.

I guess it’s a fine line between this whole “mom guilt” things. Or maybe I am making the line fine for no reason. I will probably chalk this up to one of those parenting life lessons that I learned after my kids have grown up and moved out of this stage of life.

Can I just encourage to make time for yourself today. Not the mom part of you that worries about the chores or the lists or the activities but the part that craves adult time, alone time, working on your soul building dream planning goal reaching time.

Make time for your meals today.

Make time for your exercise and your relaxation.

Make time for your pleasures and your out of the house activities.

Because You Matter Too. 

Published by Samantha Mellen

Certified personal trainer & health coach helping women transform their lives through fitness, abundant mindset coaching and internal peace. Mom of two boys, living life in Alaska.

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